I've posted in the behaviour section recently (sorry don't know how to ljnk) but I think this is an issue with breastfeeding. I'm at my wits end and really don't know how to handle the situation.
In a nutshell the issues are:
- my toddler (22 months) wants to nurse all the time for up to 2 hours at a time (he's been ill recently and is eating very few solids)
- im suffering with nursing aversion (since pregnancy) and I can only stand about 10 minutes each side, I also don't want to feed him in public or during the night/early morning, the aversion is worse when I feed both together
*his teeth dig in and leave painful marks on my areola, having him open his mouth wide doesn't help
*any time I say no or end a session (with warning and a countdown) before he's ready he has a screaming wailing tantrum. They are increasing in length, this morning was just over an hour.
*he's started to ask when we have company, when we are out and about and during the night - all of which we had stopped until and after DD was born (she's 8 weeks and this started around a week ago) I really don't want to go back a step although I would happily feed more often during the day if at home if it will help
*he's waking earlier each day demanding milk, I'm I don't mind if he wakes early but I don't want to breastfeed him until say 7 and the rest of us cannot sleep while he screams khe refuses all offers of solid food, drink, cuddles and other distractions - I also feel that by offering a these I'm reinforcing the early wakings
He's very verbal and can express himself well just don't know how much he understands and, he just doesn't like to be told no.
I appreciate any perspective if you've been in a similar position but I'm really not looking to wean.. I just want to find a way to handle the situation so we're both happy and don't lose our bond or ruin our relationship