My first - I fed on demand (which was a lot - the much later diagnosed TT which would explain why it was still 2 hourly after a year...) and didn't mind at all. mixture of self weaning and night weaning at some point around 18months but cant actually remember the last feed. Look back with nostalga.
This one - I've completely and utterly had enough and even feel bad for admitting it. First time around I was fairly hippy and AP and have quite a lot of extended bf friends. But I'm just fed up with it. Tied in with this is that I am bf to sleep, husband is away most of the time and i'm just exhausted. Lean towards no-cry sleep solution type things but again I've just had enough. I'm exhausted and I often just don't want her on me.
Today I've driven to visit relatives so she had her morning and afternoon nap in the car without a feed-to-sleep. She fed at 5.30 when she got up (grrrr) and when we arrived at relatives (about 11.30) when we got back (3ish) and after supper (about 6.30ish). This is a lot less than usual. Is it enough?
I didn't let her feed to sleep either. I fed her downstairs and am starting a New Routine. Feed downstairs, into pjs/grobag, story and then carry upstairs for songs and putting to bed. She fell asleep fine (!!) and then when she woke again instead of feeding her I cuddled her, gave her some milk in a cup (cows milk) and a sip of water in a sippy cup, settled her and she cried for about 4 mins but went to sleep.
Can I do this each time she wakes now?? I feel I've already cut out half her feeds today by accident so do I just run with it and night wean her now I've got here. I'm exhuasted but I kind of wonder that as I'm here I might as well.
Sorry its long and muddly - I'm unbelievably exhuasted and a bit emotional.
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CanIHaveAPetGiraffePlease · 05/11/2012 21:04
Yes of course - I went straight to cow's milk (in a cup) and only gave milk with meals, ie: no bedtime milk or any of that feeding to sleep - never did that anyway 
. I let my DS grizzle for a few minutes actually a lot longer but that's not allowed on mumsnet.
ugh. I remember not sitting down at friends' houses because she'd be at me again. 
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Think about how much she actually needs a drink overnight as well. A big pre bed drink and then just a quick cuddle and lay back down to sleep might do it until morning. I'm thinking that you can then very gradually reduce the cuddle to a pat or a stroke, then just your voice, then hopefully she won't disturb you at all after a while. It's called gradual withdrawal or gradual retreat or something. I've just done it with my older but very bad sleeping DCs and for the first time they both slept solidly for 11.5 hours last night in their own beds, just waking at 5.30 for a very quick cuddle and then back to sleep until 7.
If you just replace the bf with another drink you're still getting disturbed, aren't you? Just a thought.
Not being chewed on 10 times a day is lovely, btw. I weaned dd 3 months ago aged 2.3 and still enjoy not doing it
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