firstly apologies for typing and lack of capitals but phone won't automatically do them and I'm so tired! DS2 Arrived Monday night and is just lovely. breast feeding going well this time, he feed's every 3 hours in the day, settles well between feed's and is very content, but from 10 he just can't settle, fuss's at the breast, feed's, winds then seems hungry again. this went on from 10pm-4am solidly last night and night before. Any idea's? is just a case of my supply catching up. don't want to supplement with formula and gather that will just make it worse. what am i missing? please help, desperately tired and dreading another night.
This is really normal, unfortunately(!), it's called cluster feeding and yes is designed to increase your supply. Can you bring him into bed with you? If you can doze while feeding it will really help you feel more rested, and much safer to make your bed safe for him than accidentally fall asleep on the sofa or wherever. Is DC1 at nursery or school yet? If you get any chance to catch up on sleep in the day it can be a godsend. Again I used to just put DS on the bed next to me and go to sleep. Admittedly this is easier before they can roll.
thanks. that's what i thought. wish he would do it evenings though! haven't co-slept but might have to. Ds1 is 3 and does Monday at nursery and Tuesday and Wednesday mornings at pre-school. think it will be easier when he goes back to normal this week. he's finding it hard too but think normal routine will help. will grab some sleep this afternoon. Dh is being really supportive, i had pnd last time and he's worried i might be like it again but i feel much different this time although did have a mini meltdow about 3 this morning. will keep going because i love breast feeding him.
You could try bringing the cluster feeding session forward a bit - by offering hourly/very frequent feeds from 9pm, then 8pm, 7pm etc. Then it might finish a bit sooner too. Also maybe feeding more often during the day and he might need less at night.
thanks rita, he had a feeding frenzy today from 3-6 so not ideal but settled well and i at least got enough sleep to face the night ahead. will try bringing it forward tomorrow's DS1 at nursery so it's my intention to stay in bed and feed feed feed and sleep.
much better night. fed every 4 hours and settled well in between. so I'm refreshed enough to deal with whatever this week brings. know it's gonna be up and down but it's nice to get a good night! thanks for all the tips and reassurance. I'm sure I'll be back in this topic before long! I'm just received feeding is going better this time, desperately regret not being able to continue with ds1 and I'm determined to ask for more help this time in an attempt at not getting to the point where i make myself ill worrying about it.