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Is it a bad idea to give a 4 day old breast fed baby a dummy?

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Lollyheart Mon 26-Sep-11 09:39:18

Ds3 is fine during the day but at night he just wants to be at the breast.

I will feed him until he latches off but as soon as I put him down he wakes up and crys until I put him on the breast, he will have a few sucks then fall back to sleep.

Will a dummy be a bad idea?

tiktok Mon 26-Sep-11 09:53:15

lolly, your lovely new baby sounds absolutely normal!

Babies of four days need to be close to and/or on the breast a lot of the time - this is normal, natural and important for getting bf off to a good start.

A dummy would not be a good idea because it interferes with this process - babies should get their sucking time at the breast when they are very new, not really because the sucking 'interferes' with the 'skill' of sucking at the breast (though this is possible I think) but because you don't want him to be happy and soothed with a dummy at this stage - risk is he seems happy on the dummy but actually needs the breast....not all babies (especially new ones) are fully able to know the difference and will appear content on the dummy, whereas they need to be priming your breastmilk production.

Your midwife will confirm all this, prob smile

BedHog Mon 26-Sep-11 10:01:42

My BF counsellor said 3-8 weeks is the best time to introduce a bottle if you want to use it for expressed milk or move to mixed feeding. This age minimises nipple confusion apparently. Presumably a dummy would be similar, so maybe wait a few weeks if you can, although I know that seems difficult.

ShowOfHands Mon 26-Sep-11 10:06:30

Agree wholeheartedly with tiktok. On day 4 ds was feeding almost constantly. At night in particular this sucking is very important in establishing milk supply. It WILL settle down and is utterly normal.

SlinkyB Mon 26-Sep-11 10:16:46

I gave my bf ds a dummy at this age; it was the only way we could get him to sleep at night. We'd hold it in for a few seconds, and as soon as he was asleep we'd remove it. I never had any problems with milk supply as was still feeding very regularly, and ds never got nipple confusion, but this is just my experience.

He found his thumb good and proper a few weeks later and hasn't stopped sucking it since! (he's now 8 months) So we chucked the dummies away.

Lollyheart Mon 26-Sep-11 10:17:47

Thanks for the replies.
My confidence in bf isn't that great, I have rather large boobs and flatish nipples, I've had to resort to a Sheild for one boob as he finds it hard to latch onto as the nipple is quite big for his little mouth.
I have 3 other dcs but gave up very quicklly with dc1 and 2, I managed to feed dc3 until he was two but had a very difficult start with him and mix fed for the first couple of months.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability Mon 26-Sep-11 11:23:01

I'm with slinky, I gave DS a dummy. He was EBF and still is BF now, I didnt have problems with supply or nipple confusion at all. But I made sure he was at the breast often, just not constantly

If he struggled with a nipple shield, he may not take a dummy though?

hiss42 Mon 26-Sep-11 12:38:47

Have you tried having him in your bed? I don't like the idea of co-sleeping but DS hates his moses basket. He falls asleep in my arms then I sneak him in his basket and he wakes up. Now I let him fall asleep in my bed for half an hour until he's completley zonked, and put a hot water bottle and some breast pads in his basket and he's fine!!!

EauRouge Mon 26-Sep-11 13:01:27

I'm with TikTok as well. It's not usually recommended to introduce dummies or bottles before 6 weeks. Can you meet with a BF counsellor (NCT or LLL) to talk things through? Some decent support should help your confidence level. smile

TheBluthCompany Mon 26-Sep-11 15:55:57

It sounds like he really wants to be close to you - just where newborns are designed to be. My DS was like this, I just couldnt put him down - so I didn't. We ended up co-sleeping and it really worked for us (still does at 7 months!), he was happy, and I got more sleep. Make sure you get proper support with the bf. Good luck!

PrincessScrumpy Mon 26-Sep-11 17:53:31

scbu gave dtds dummies during tube feeds to get them sucking - I now have 4week old girls who are pretty content, bf well and have dummies to calm them. dd1 would comfort suck but with twins I simply don't have the luxury of time! my mw was anti but my hv said to use them as we have cot death in the family and they help prevent it - mam ones are supported by SID charity.

In addition, often giving bottles and dummies after 6 weeks is often unsuccessful (as I discovered with dd1 who refused a bottle until 8 months), this time hv said to introduce before 6 weeks but after3 - we give one bottle of expressed milk a night, and it works well for us.

Basically, you will get lots of advice, so just do what feels right.

EauRouge Mon 26-Sep-11 19:12:13

Here is some info on how dummies can affect breastfeeding.

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