Hi would really appreciate some help with this as I have got a few issues going on at the mo. DS is bf but from about 4 weeks has had one bottle of formula a day, given by dh in the middle of night around 2-3am, as I was losing the plot from no sleep. This helped me at the time and DS did seem to sleep better so has worked ok for a while.
After a particularly hard day about a few weeks ago I was persuaded by DH to give DS another top up bottle of formula at his midnight/1am feed (when I'm usually still up) after both breasts, to see if this helped him settle better. DS guzzled both breasts then 6-7oz on top, which I was a bit about as this seemed to back up dh's argument that DS wasn't settling because he needed more milk as he then slept longer.
I am actually a bit annoyed with DH as I'm not feeling that he is very supportive of me breast feeding, he is also desperate to wean DS and seems to see formula as better for DS as 'he is a hungry baby'. He does feed frequently, but I know that is entirely normal and am fine about it. The problem being that he has slept better since we introduced the formula, so I feel that has inadvertently 'proved' to DH that the formula is better than breast milk and is what DS needs.
But the problem now is that DS has started settling at 9-10.30pm with just boob, so that 'last top up' is given by me when he wakes around 2-3am and then it takes me forever to feed him both boobs plus a bottle and I'm finding I'm up for nearly an hour. DH then feeds him another 6-7oz of formula at around 6-7am.
I'm going to carry on doing the middle of the night feed, so I want to drop that bottle feed at 2-3am and just bf but I don't know how to do it as at the moment he has both boobs then gets quite agitated and won't latch on at all, then is fine once he's had a bottle and goes back to sleep.
The other issue is that DH has been popping over to see his mum with DS at the weekends so I get to catch up on sleep while ds sees his gm. I have been trying to express enough so he only needs my milk, but this weekend I hadn't got enough, so DH took formula. I usually last feed DS at around 9am, then DH gets back with him at 3pm. I pump at about 1pm after my snooze then feed DS as soon as he is back.
I am concerned that this is affecting my supply, as I also went back to work at the weekend (I'm self employed) so as well as the morning, I was away for about 2 1/2 hours Sat eve and 4 hours on Sunday and DH gave DS formula while I was away. When I got back Saturday night DS was really fussing at the breast and refusing point blank to latch on and I got really upset. I went and calmed down for 5 mins while dh soothed DS and when I came back I said to DH that I thought we needed to decrease the amount of formula, and he got annoyed and had a go at me as he thinks the opposite!
I was really upset as he said that he thinks it's my ego getting in the way and that it's just so I can say to people that I breast fed till 6 months as some sort of ego boost!! (ha he has no idea I plan feeding till at least toddler hood!)
So, several issues. Any help with any of them would be gratefully received. Thanks!
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Could really do with advice, supply issues, lack of bf support from DH and dropping a feed in 14wk old
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inatrance · 09/08/2011 00:04
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