Still breastfeeding, I can't believe it(20 Posts)
Today has been a very happy day. It was DD's second birthday and funny enough the first thing she asked this morning when she woke up was "mummy's milk".
Two years ago when she was born I never thought I would be breastfeeding for this long. I started doing it but never put myself a date to stop. In January this year I decided that I would like to stop once she turned two (today) and started to reduce feeds. At the time she was having 4/5 feeds per day (including nights). In May I had second round of Mastitis and decided that it had arrived the end of breastfeeding for me as I could not cope with the thought of mastitis again. Things got complicated and after 6 weeks I made the mistake, or maybe not, to put DD again in the breast to show her that I didn't have milk any more (stupid me ). While she was sucking came my big surprise, I asked her if there was some milk and she looked to me with this fantastic smile in her face and said yes. Of course after this it has been impossible to stop.
Now she won't breastfeed everyday but I can't believe I have reached this age. For a while I thought that I would stop at 2 years and now I don't know when we will stop. Knowing DD never but what I know is that we will carry on as it is now and we'll see what happens in the future.
I just wanted to share this as I can't believe it myself
That's a lovely story and another vote for letting the child decide when to stop BF.
As well as all the physical benefits and nurturing you have provided your daughter, you have also given her memories of breastfeeding which will stay with her and may help normalise the idea of BF past the early months.
It is funny because for the last 6 months she has been breastfeeding her dollies and also asking me to breastfeed them. She has never had a bottle and when I decided to stop breastfeeding I tried to introduce cow's milk and still today she won't drink it. I do not know what it is but she does not like it at all.
I am the happiest mum in the world (or may be there are other mums happier than me). Now I will have to wait and see what she wants to do
I also can't believe I'm still breastfeeding.
I had a very bad start - rubbish post natal care and rubbish bf advice, excruciating pain, cracked, bleeding nipples etc. Every feed in those first few weeks I would tell myself was the last one and I would put her on the bottle next feed. And every time she wanted to be fed I gritted my teeth and made myself do it.
Then I said just til the end of this week.
Then just to 3 months.
Then just to the expected 6 months.
And of course it got slightly easier every time until it was mo problem at all.
Now DD is 2.11 years and she is still bf! I'm amazed I got through 3 days, never mind 3 years.
orchidee - it never occurred to me before that a toddler will remember bf.
Itsnot - it is fascinating to wait and see when / how they will stop.
DS1 is 3 and shows no sign of wanting to give up his bedtime Mummy's milk.
That's such a lovely story Itsnot and happy birthday to your DD, hope you both had a lovely day.
LakeFlyPie I'm new to this myself, BF a 3 month old PFB, but a couple of things struck me recently:
- I saw a friend BF her new baby while her 3 yo sat there as though nothing out of the ordinary was happening. It's just his little sister being fed.
- I was visiting another friend with my new baby and gave him a quick feed. Her 5 yo came over to have a look at what I was doing then wandered off. She'd never seen anyone BF before but wasn't phased by it.
In a very small way, can this help to normalise the idea that babies can be fed straight from their mum? That breasts aren't just for "grown-up cuddles"? (Don't get me started on children and early sexualisation...) It made me realise that I'd never (noticed?) seen anyone BF a baby until my 30s. I was FF myself and knew embarrassingly little about BF until last year when I became pg. Growing up I will have been influenced massively by my mum and the advertising formula companies do. And they could get help from my mum, the
nonsense misunderstandings about BF she has spouted since DS was born is virtually hilarious, but also sad, as it could have ended my BF story if I'd done those things. (He can't be hungry again! Let him cry! Needs a dummy! Bottle = sleep)
orchidee I was the last one of my friends to have babies and they all ff whilst I bf mine. However, I had seen some women bf and I hadn't realised until recently what a big influence it had had on me.
My Mum bf my sister when I was 5.5, then her best friend had two children which she bf when I was about 10 and 12 sha also set up the local LLL with a friend. Then in my 20's my cousin ff her first 2 then bf her third child. We come from a family of fierce ffers and her Mum, my Auntie is probably the avid ffer and most critical of bfing ever!
Glad bfng is working for you and in your own little way you are making bfing normal. Incidently my bf's dd used to bf her dolls after seeing me bf both of my DC
Happy birthday to your DD! I never expected to go past 6 months with BF, I thought that's just how long people did it for (stupid, lying Aptamil advert). My DD1 will be 3 in October.
Breastfeeding Older Children by Ann Sinnott is a lovely book to read if you're thinking about natural term BF.
Well done and carry on BF as long as you and DD like
My DD certainly remembers BF, but she carried on well past school age. She is a very sassy porto teenager and I am forbidden to tell you when she gave up, even though varying on was always her choice.
Carrying on - some days I don't think I should carry one using an iPod
Well done Op and all you natural term bfing mums!
This thread and the other one about a mum being criticised for nursing an 18 month old have made me determined to bf my 4 year old with pride! Everyone is so right about the need to normalise bfing in our society. I am so lucky to move in a bit of a lentil knitting bubble where it is fairly common to bf for ages, so I am fairly open, but I'm definitely going to stop refusing in Sainsbury's, or mumbling 'oh, just sometimes at night' when hcp's ask if I am STILL bfing.
I have armed myself with statistics, and I'm not afraid to use them
It is so nice to know that there are other mums out there still breastfeeding older children. I was breastfed and so was my brother. He was coming from school and latch on my mum although I do not remember it but my mum has always mention it. All my friends stopped at around 12 months if not before and I have to say that other friends think I have stopped as I did but I have not had the strenght to tell them as they will be shocked by it. I know .
Our beginnings where very difficult too. DD spent 3 days in the neo natal unit feed by a tub because I didn't wanted her to have a bottle, PIL looked at me as if I was crazy, how could I allow my DD to have a tub ion her nose just because I wanted to brastfeed her?, MIL FF her three children so she couldn't understand. I knew I wanted to breastfeed her after all. As bushymcbush I have terrible nipples since week 2 and also first round of mastitis which was a killer. Although I still managed to breastfeed her through it. Now thinking back I can't believe how I could go through so much pain and never thought of giving up, I must be crazy
Now I am glad I am still doing it. Although I have to confess that I went through a terrible stage at the beginning of the year where I felt I needed to regain control of my bubs and just wanted to stop breastfeeding, I can't believe it!!!!
Thanks to all of you. We had a fantastic day yesterday
By the way careyhunt, could you let me know where I can find some statistics please? I may need some myself
There is some good info on this page. I especially like the nutritional breakdown bit, a quick way to silence the 'BM has no nutritional value after [insert age here]'
I love this...http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.html
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