I am currently BF'ing DS4 who is 4 weeks and it is going well, despite the mastitis I have got ATM. He has been gaining weight well (born 7lb14, 9lb11 on monday) but I keep having wobbles.
It might be him getting his flaming arms in the way and turning his head the wrong way whilst crying for a feed at 2am 
or nothing at all, just me not in my comfort zone which, unfortunately (in my eyes), is FF. I really would love to BF him as long as possible but right now am on the edge of stopping so that I can be back on familiar ground.
I think part of me feels guilty for being more snappish with the other LO's as well, I can feed comfortably and one handed with a bottle - not so with BF with my SPD I find it hard to sit comfortably (I cannot feed lying down because of the size, shape and geography of my boobs). This means I can't do as much with them (the DC's) as we would like or need and so it goes on.
I know FF isn't poison, if things hadn't worked out I would not have felt guilty (as I have done before) so I have no problems with that.
Equally I know that BF is the absolute best I can do for DS4, and I knew it wouldn't be plain sailing at first so no shattered illusions there. I even asked DH not to let me just give up if things got a bit rough, but to remind me why I wanted to do this in the first place and let me moan if needed - which he has done last night brilliantly.
He got me to see that because I felt so unwell I was possibly not making a balanced decision and to wait before making a decision - DS is still feeding from both sides, so no worries there - I just needed to see the DR and get my medicine. ( BF being free helps him stay focussed)
So why am I posting? I think right now I just need reassuring that it's ok. Later I may need a slap 
Oh and the actual question here; my (older wiser) Dr said keep feeding from sore boob, the one who came to visit suggested otherwise... although she did say maybe only stop if it got worse when I pushed her. Instinct tells me to keep feeding but what would you suggest?
And finally for now, how do you know when BF is established? Are there signs? ( I know I'm not there yet, just curious)
Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.
Infant feeding
Twit's BF'ing questions (after a quick grumble)
Twit · 27/07/2011 12:24
Definitely do keep feeding from the sore boob first and completely empty the breast each time to make sure there is no chance of any more blocked ducts.
Sadly enough, for a mum who's been feeding 10.5 months. I don't actually know when bf was established 
. It just was at some point.
As to the rest, it gets easier about the 6 week mark I think. (at least it did for me). Tea and cake have an enormous amount to do with how well it goes. Don't run out.
Oh so I should start all feeds on the sore side? I tend to feed 'til he drops off on the one side then offering the other if needed- not sure if that makes a difference?
I had started thinking just get to the 6-8 week check as a short term milestone and then see.
I have read about Biological nurturing but I can't lie on my back ( even a bit) plus I'd be a bit nervous about getting the latch right having pretty much sorted it.
I did threaten him with a sling, and he responded by sucking his thumb 
Kinda wishing I hadn't looked at the kellymom site, have now got the what -ifs?.
I can't massage while feeding 'cos I need two hands to feed ATM. Will I notice a change in his nappies (am thinking blood and pus - yuk).
I really don't want it to get worse 
.
If I always feed from the sore boob first what will happen to the supply with the other one? Will I get mastitis in that one too by doing this?
twit If you find that the other boob is getting too full or not feeling drained enough, feel free to start feeds from that side so you're balanced. Really, the point is to try to keep the affected side drained while the mastitis clears but as you say, don't do that to the detriment of the good side. Try not to over-think this, IYSWIM, just go with what feels right with the understanding that trying to keep bad boob empty (or frequently draining) is a good thing.
Can you express? Expressing off the bad boob may help. Maybe you can hand express in the shower or bath? Massage in the shower or bath may help as well, if you can't do it while feeding. If you've got a wide-toothed comb, gently but firmly combing the breast towards the nipple can help to ease out those blockages.
Don't worry about "what if". Kellymom has loads of info but it covers everything, even the really, really rare stuff. It's a bit like reading a medical book sometimes - you get convinced you've got really obscure stuff (well I do!!).
That flailing arms thing is so, SO frustrating, but so much more than made up for in a few weeks when instead of flailing he puts them up to your cheek, looks into your eyes and smiles at you as he's latched on, telling you how much he loves his boobies.
Is there a breastfeeding group or cafe you can go to? Most have play areas that you can let your DCs run riot in while you focus on you and bub.
You're doing brilliantly by the sounds of it, though.
There is nothing at all in my area, they are so desperate they asked if I would consider becoming a BF adviser (assuming it all goes to plan and I continue).
I took my first anti-biotic earlier so hopefully will start getting better after a while.
He isn't flailing he's putting them to his mouth {still v annoying though]
Would a good plan be to keep alternating as sometimes he only has one side but if he does this and none is taken from the sore side to try expressing, just to keep things moving? This in my head seems more sensible, plus he gwts good 'clean' stuff every other feed 
yes I would love to, it's another reason I'm hoping to carry on BF'ing until whenever. I may end up picking all of your brains alot, to get different experiences and ideas when I start the training. If that's ok obviously. I think that's partly why I'm possibly over thinking as well.
I hope DS doesn't get tummy ache or we get thrush from all this, I know the milk from the sore side is fine and dandy but in my head the good side is better . Am not happy about the empty stomach/hour before food thing though, I'm peckish most of the time.
Of course, twit. There's quite a few peer supporters and/or trainee breastfeeding counsellors on here, and our resident qualified BFC (tiktok). Would love to talk BFing .
Eeexcellent
Yes my rather lovely MW suggested being a BFC (eventually I guess) and me not being particularly into the whole group thing might mean I can help others who aren't either as well as tagging along to a group (if it gets set up - as yet like I said nothing) I told her to contact me in 6 months in case it didn't work out because it wouldn't be right if I wasn't speaking from at least some experience.
I might end up having to sometimes go to the local post-natal ward (is that the right ward - I forget) as well she reckons it's so bad.
And I actually have a decent HV as well who was encouraging it so I'm really quite excited by the idea as I find it so interesting. I love the idea that I might be able to help the (all lovely) MW's in my town by taking some of the BF problems on for them as they are swamped as well as helping mothers and babies figure this stuff out even if it's just a shoulder to cry on.
I have been reading all of your pearls of wisdom for months now and even though you don't know me alot of you are familiar to me, so hopefully we can all eat cake together while I learn (so expect alot of dumb and not so dumb questions ).
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.