I have two issues with feeding my 5 month old that I need help with if anyone has suggestions.
First, she's started pushing against me very hard with one hand, at the top of my boob as if she's bracing herself. It's really uncomfortable and sometimes painful. Especially as sometimes she likes to pinch me at the same time. How do I get her to stop? If I hold her hand the whole time to prevent it I can't eat/mumsnet/drink/do anything fun.
Second, she is getting a bit long to feed in the cross cradle position I've always used. I was trying to feed her in Costa today but her legs were bashing against the chair arms and she likes to brace with her legs too - which tends to make her pop off. I've seen people feed in a more "baby sat on lap" position but I have no idea how to make that work.
So would he be sort of upright against your boob then Rita? Rather than horizontal? I'm not sure how to get my daughter latched on properly in that position. I could try and let her do it herself but she tends to miss the nipple completely and enthusiastically suck on my skin and leave me with big lovebites!
I pretty much always have a top covering me as I favour the 2 vest approach to feeding, I still get pushed at. Sometimes she pushes and pulls away with my nipple in her mouth at the same time. That's particularly fun. Maybe I could give her a muslin to scrunch though.
all 3 of mine did that pushing thing and it's bloody annoying isn't it??
I did ask at LLL and they said maybe flow wasn't fast enough or something, but I don't think there is a definite answer for it tbh
I just used to get removing the hand and stopping them from doing it, often had to keep hold of hand too, made for a grumpy baby, but I figured if they were hungry they'd feed anyway
It took me ages to manage a normal breastfeeding hold instead of cross cradle, but at 5 months your DD ought to be old enough to find the nipple and latch on well without help. So I'd practice at home maybe, just lie her in your arms, bring her up towards the breast and allow her to latch on and see how you go. Once you're used to having her in the same arm as the breast you're feeding from you'll be able to adjust her into a more upright position if necessary.
last bit of advice... choose chairs without arms, or a sofa! nothing they can brace legs on!
Oh I do have her in the same arm as my breast. I latch her on using the opposite and then switch, so umm, whatever that hold is. She can at times latch on ok herself, but other times she gets so excited by the prospect of boob that she squeals with delight and just launches herself at the nearest bit of flesh.
Oh my, my 5 week old DS braces himself & pulls his head back whilst still latched, OUCH! I tend to feed him out of reach of anything he can kick off now, but unfortunately he's not interested in distractions yet so I still get the pushing off me with his hand!
Ds is now 10 months old and he likes to swing one of his legs so that he's facing me and straddle my thigh. I'm not that keen on this position so move him back so that his little bum sits in my lap. We basically have this toing and froing for most of the feed. Kind of like a war of attrition.
I have to move my hair out of his way as well. Think he gets bored.
i have no advice. Sorry. Ds did this. Then stopped. His current favourite is twiddleing the other nipple. It is the most skin crawlingly irritating thing ever. He could it into fort knox with one hand if there was a nip in there. I can not wait till he gets over it. Sorry. I have just hijacked your thread to moan sympathise.