Should I try expressing?(4 Posts)
DS is 3 weeks old, and bf'ing has always been a problem for us- we spent 4 days in hospital after the birth because he could latch on but wouldn't suck. When he did start sucking, it became very hard for me to latch him on, or he would latch on but fall off again very easily. Our latch has been checked by several midwives and health visitors, who have all said it looks fine, and I've been to breastfeeding support group, where I got some tips which sometimes help, sometimes don't.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, I'm still not enjoying feeding ds at all, and although I was prepared for it to be a bit painful at first, I totally wasn't prepared for it to hurt as much as it does, or for it to still be hurting this much after three weeks. It doesn't help that ds is quite a 'sucky' baby, and will often fall asleep on the breast still doing tiny little sucks, before he's really finished, which again means he slips off and I am in pain .
It seems to be a lot worse at night, when we're both tired and neither of us can really be bothered to put in as much effort as we do in the day! Should I consider expressing my milk for him, at least at night time, to make both of our lives a bit easier? Has anyone got any experience of doing this? I'm not ready to move onto formula yet, and I don't really want to move to expressing all of the time, as I so wanted him to be a breastfed baby, and don't think I could deal with the guilt, or sense of failure, at giving up so soon, but yet I think the time has come to admit that our current situation just isn't working.
I think you might find getting some more help to sort out his latch better than the expressing, not that there is anything wrong with expressing, but if you are looking to make your life easier then it can be a lot of hassle pumping, sorting out bottles etc.
If you could have pain free bf would you be happy doing this? If so then you need to find someone in rl to help - perhaps try one of the bf helplines? MWs and HVs are often not very well trained in bf support (some are great of course) and so you need to find someone who really knows their stuff - ask them if there is someone they can refer you to, or ask at the bf group? Is there an infant feeding specialist person in your trust?
And I agree with RM about checking for TT, ask someone to look for that, and if there is one ask for it to be snipped asap.
Expressing isn't easier. I would get more help with bfing as you could obviously make improvements.
One thing I would suggest is keep an eye on LO when the feed slows and take him off (finger in the side of the mouth to break the suction) when the latch slips.
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