Top tips for dealing with comments from friends?

[organiccarrotcake]

It's my friend's birthday party tomorrow night - her 50th so a biggie. Her husband is one of DS's godfathers and she's one of my closest friends although we don't see each other as often as we might as we live 2 hours away from each other now.

At DS's christening he was about 3 months old and BF on demand which at that age meant a lot! My friend's husband felt really awkward about me BFing in front of him and made some "is he feeding again" comments (I ticked the bingo box :) ) It was nothing to do with being able to see anything as I had a muslin covering everything - it was the concept of BFing that made him uncomfortable.

DS is now nearly 11 months and I don't think for a moment that it would have crossed his mind that I'll still be BFing. I suspect that there may be the odd comment more out of surprise than anything else but I'm feeling a bit awkward about how to respond to anything said. I will be taking a scarf because the nursing dress I have isn't that great and while I wouldn't normally use one I just feel in this context it's appropriate.

It's out of character for me to be jittery but I am. Support needed :)

[HumphreyCobbler]

If someone asked me if I was STILL feeding then I replied, with the biggest smile I could manage, "Yes, isn't it FANTASTIC. I never thought I would get this far".

Shuts them up nicely.

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

you could say someting like, "
"Oh sorry you must have misheard me, he is 11 months old not 11 years don't worry not scarey wierdo yet"

[organiccarrotcake]

Thanks guys :)

He's a fab bloke - obviously as we chose him as godfather! I find that I'm in a BFing bubble, though, and sometimes it's a shock to realise that BFing a toddler isn't seen that much.

But with an evening party and a boy who likes his evening milk, there's not much in the way of choice!

[organiccarrotcake]

LOL greyskull

[Albrecht]

Depends on the circumstances. Ds is the same age and sometimes I make a joke of it but I have started saying, "WHO recommend atleast 2 yrs and in lots of countries its normal to feed til 3 or 4."

When they do this , I say something like, "I know I was really surprised too. It just shows how distanced we've become from norml breastfeeding practices in this country."

[thesurgeonsmate]

Love it, Humphrey, with the right timing that would just get the whole thing kicked into touch, wouldn't it!

[thesurgeonsmate]

I've been working on adapting the Humphrey line for my own circumstances. "You won't want to be feeding much longer now she has teeth" - "Oh no, it turns out you can keep going even when they get teeth, isn't it great!"

[HumphreyCobbler]

[organiccarrotcake]

:)

Well in the end I needn't have worried.

I'd taken a wrap to "cover" us because the nursing dress I have is one of those with a cross front that you pull a part to the side, but essentially you are sticking your boob through a hole which just isn't pretty! (Note to self: get new nursing dress). However, Bub was having none of that and just fought and fought it. I was sitting with a friend and we ended up wetting ourselves with laughter over it all. So I just got on with it anyway, when required, without the wrap. The friend I was worried about just came over and chatted to me and mentioned nothing, but was obviously very comfortable, and I got some lovely smiles from some ladies that I didn't know (older ladies).

So all was well. :)

[cheekychickenknickers]

Yay that is good news!