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Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

Infant feeding

Can i complain about my HV?

19 replies

waitwhat · 09/12/2010 19:02

And ask for a different one?

I just had a HV visit who remarked how "chunky" Ds2 is now he was 4.46 kg at birth and now at 7.3 weeks he is 5.28 kg

She recommended i drop a feed or so during the day as a obese child will not be a happy one in later life.
I told her i didn't feel he was a fat child(pic on profile of him) and she then sat there and said as i wasn't trained and she was so "who's more likely to be right?"

I might be over sensitive but i just dot think i can have her back in my house without slipping poison in her tea.

Am i able to get a different one or am i stuck with her? I am not sure how it all works

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 09/12/2010 19:04

Oh my goodness what a stupid woman, and what a gorgeous baby!

I would complain, because if she really did have concerns then her attitude stinks - but in terms of seeing anymore HVs, you can just decline the visits if you want to.

bellylicious · 09/12/2010 19:06

yes you are entitled to change your hv or just not bother seeing one at all
its your child your choice

seen the pic and i certainly wouldnt put him in the super fat child cat!!!
just a normal healthy little boy!

tbh id invite her round once more and crack on with the poisen hun

ChoudeBruxelles · 09/12/2010 19:06

That's not fat. He sounds lovely and chunky. Babies should be squishy so that you can squeeze their lovely fat legs.

Just tell her to sod off and ignore her. you don't have to see her. If you have any queries just go and see your GP.

bessyboop · 09/12/2010 19:08

That's awful - I would complain as well. Your baby looks gorgeous. Pfft, I would ask for another HV to be honest.

grumpybrusselsprout · 09/12/2010 19:09

I am staggered! He looks absolutely gorgeous and very healthy, she clearly has not got a clue and you should ignore her

Get the service managers name and email and put your concerns in writing, asking for a different professional from now on. There will be a team of them and they can easily allocate you another one.

I would be absolutely steaming! You will not be able to trust her advice at all from now on. Continue to feed on demand and if you see her again say something derogatory about her appearance and she how she likes it . No, thats probably a bad idea but you know what I mean

tiktok · 09/12/2010 19:10

How extraordinary. I am looking at his weight on the charts, and he seems to be going through a nice, normal, period of 'catch down' growth, as his centile line is now lower than at birth, which is often the case with babies born at a high weight. He's on the 75th centile - hardly unusual :)

People do change their health visitors - you can just call your health centre and ask. Tell them why, too.

tiktok · 09/12/2010 19:12

And your baby is absolutely delightful and gorgeous and healthy-looking and yummy :) :)

waitwhat · 09/12/2010 19:13

In all fairness he does love his milk, he would spend all day attached to my chest if he could lol

I just cant help but feel that she could of been alot less brash with me.

Didn't know we don't have to see them, i thought we were required too, I will ring up tomorrow and have a word

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skandi1 · 09/12/2010 19:13

Yes you can complain. You will have to look it up but there will be a sort of a "mothership of HVs" locally to you where all the admin etc is run from.

My neighbour complained about one locally as she felt the HV had handled her newborn roughly and been unpleasant to her. She also refused to see another HV again.

Don't think you're being oversensitive. My DD was same weight as your DS at birth and she was about 5.5kg at almost 9 weeks so similar. She would not be described as "chunky" by any stretch. She was also v long.

If you are unsure about any of the HVs comments in terms of health - go and see you GP. Might put your mind at rest. But honestly you DS does not sound big. And at 7.3 weeks, it really really is far too early to tell if he was growing too fast. If he is still piling it on at 8 or 9 months, perhaps you need to take more action. But get your GP to put your mind at rest.

Also you don't need to see your HV again. I saw the one who came to our house a couple of weeks after DD was born and I then went (they run a clinc at my GPs) when DD was almost 9 weeks and I have not seen anyone since. There has been no need. DD is healthy and growing well and hit all her milestones early. No one told me that you have to see them. So I am sure you can just say no thanks.

Its hard when they are that age, you worry about any comment made (I still do and DD is 16 months now).

AliGrylls · 09/12/2010 19:14

I would complain. She shouldn't be giving this kind of advice - if there was genuine concerned she should have suggested a referral to a dietitian.

TheCrackFox · 09/12/2010 19:15

What a lovely baby. Your HV is an arse. Please ring up.

MrsDrOwenHunt · 09/12/2010 19:16

what a happy contented looking baby, he is gorgeous well bloody done, my ds weighed 611b15 oz at birth and at 7 weeks was 11 ibs!!! i stopped seeing hv at 18 mths when she told me i shouldnt be bf ds as it had no nutrional value!

larrygrylls · 09/12/2010 19:17

If you are happy with your own health and that of your baby, you do not have to see the HVs at all. They are there for you and not vice versa. Just say you are doing fine thanks and require no further contact unless things change.

EatingAngelPie · 09/12/2010 19:18

Hah. my brother doubled in weight in the first ten weeks. he got to 6'2.....only a beet paunchy now, but always lean as a young adult.

'drop a feed' - what, and listen to him wail?

waitwhat · 09/12/2010 19:23

I did wonder how exactly i was supposed to miss a feed out. He has a cry to rival a jet engine when he is bored so god knows what his im starving one would sound like

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ReshapeWhileDamp · 09/12/2010 20:45

Baby lovely, and normal. Breastfed babies are often 'chunky' but then so are FF babies. He is following normal development and she is misinformed. Dropping a feed at this young age is madness. Please complain.

MoonUnitAlpha · 09/12/2010 22:34

How on earth are you supposed to "drop a feed" in a breastfed 7 week old anyway?

blackcurrants · 09/12/2010 22:47

oh FFS what nonsense. COMPLAIN. This woman need re-training, if not an official bollocking (well, better for her than the arsenic method, anyway!) - your baby is gorgeous.

Mine's a big biffer too, always has been. EBF and gorgeous!

BabaTaz · 09/12/2010 22:53

complain - DD was a kilogram heavier than your boy at the same age and is now 9.73kg at 17 weeks and a fair way above the 99.6th percentile. HV has asked if I'm topping up but has never suggested skipping feeds.

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