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Marriage issues(2 Posts)
Hi, I’m looking for a bit of advice. I have been with my now husband 5 years, we had a bit of a whirlwind romance and I got caught pregnant 3 months into our relationship! We now have 2 children and married 2 years ago. We was happy for a while until my husband started being verbally abusive. It’s difficult to understand why I stayed and married him but it wasn’t all bad, we would go through stages of arguing and him calling me name and saying things just to hurt me then he would say sorry and we could be fine for a good while and have a really lovely time together (this made me feel like everything was fine and we was all happy until the next time it started). I think I’ve finally realised how unhappy he has made me, I used to feel like leaving during arguments or straight after but the days that followed he would be so loving and say sorry I didn’t want to leave. But now the feeling of wanting to leave is not going away. I’ve spoken with him and I think it’s hit home, he’s promised me it will never happen again and he will work to change. He got very upset and I felt bad. But I’m starting to feel it’s a little to late, I don’t love him like I used to, I constantly feel on edge and have to think about things before I say them, not knowing what kind of a mood he will come home in and even now he’s fine with me I still feel anxious waiting for the next time. I’m scared of upseting him or making him angry because I find him quite scary during arguments, he’s never hurt me but I’m worried he would. I’m not sure what to do anymore. We have two young children and I don’t want to upset them but I’m scared I’ve fallen out of love with my husband and if I will ever get that back even if he does change. I’ve also found myself thinking about other men and I feel awful about it. Has anyone ever been through this or have any advice?
I'm a man.had same problems with my wife of 34 years.tried controlling me for most of our married life.convinced me it was me that had the problems.came to a point just before 31st Dec 2017.she started yet another aregiment.I stopped talking to her.could not take the rows getting more regular.she left almost 3 months ago.I feel a lot less like walking on eggshells.she has not contacted our 2 grown up children or myself since.still get my bad days being on my own.keep your chin up do what your head tells you not your heart.other wise you might saying the same thing in 10 years.and be unhappy.good luck
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