Childless christmas

[oneday123]

Hello
So I love Christmas, have loads of nieces and nephews, big family do, but... I don’t have children, I would love children but hasn’t happened yet, I can’t help but feel I’m missing out, missing out on making little family traditions etc, any ideas how to make Christmas special for me and partner?! We will be going to parents for the day and I know it will be fun, but Xmas eve, Xmas morning and evening I can’t help but feel a bit shitty basically! Any suggestions on making it special or fun without kiddies? Xxx

[PasstheStarmix]

I think just enjoy it the two of you while you can. I can't stress that enough;enjoy the rest. Enjoy the faces of your nieces and nephews and getting pampered if you're not doing the cooking. It's my baby's first Christmas this year but I don't have any nieces or nephews. I've always felt the same but now when me and dh look back we wish we'd just enjoyed Christmas abit better and chilled out abit. Now we have ds we are parents and can't get drunk and lie in bed until late! It's bloody hard work but I love little man to pieces. I'm doing all the cooking and wish I was getting pampered and somebody else was doing it!

[PasstheStarmix]

And when it happens you'll have all of the traditions and things all to come. Enjoy having the money to spoil each other and have a relaxing morning opening presents. Me and dh don't have any money to spend on ourselves anymore and long gone are those days. You and your dp can make your own traditions together now, they don't need to start with children. For instance is there a a certain food you eat on Christmas Eve or a breakfast on Christmas Day? You probably have more traditions than you've realised already and these can be passed on to dc in time.

[Ragwort]

I know it's probably not what you want to hear but I preferred Christmas pre-children - time to do what you want, to enjoy grown up activities, to enjoy the church service of your choice (s), lovely, long walks, adult conversation, choosing what to watch on tv rather than some tedious childrens' film, leisurely meals, sophisticated meet ups with friends.

Enjoy it all .

[phoenix1973]

Make the most of it. I preferred all adults christmas. Loud karaoke, drinking, food, snooze after dinner sometimes.
Purely selfish unadulterated indulgence with family and friends.
Not enjoyed it since.

[oneday123]

Thank you so much for your replies, I was feeling very negative but you have lifted my mood, I guess you always want what you haven’t got, grass is always greener etc! I’ll make the most of it for now, I suppose my worry is being childless forever!! Thank you for your responses! Xxx

[PasstheStarmix]

oneday123 I think you should just concentrate on having fun and give yourself some time off and not think about children for now. Take that pressure off yourself and leave it to nature and I bet it'll happen when you least expect it! Have a lovely Christmas! x