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Husband on porn

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Jade2092 · 25/08/2017 10:50

Hi ya, I'm new to this so I do apologise in advance.

Firstly my husband of 8year, I found him have a happy night on porn while I was out with our 5 children not the first time might I add. What I can't get is he knows I hate it but he is addictive to it. It's put a huge wedge in our marriage I won't have sex with him because 2 night ago I found him on a fuckbuddy website with is photo up on there,!! He says I'm being stupid that he loves me and he was only on there to look at other women he wouldn't have spoken to them. It's made me feel low and not good enough.
Is it just me being silly or what??
HELP!!! Please
Sorry if this isn't allowed in new

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MebeingMe · 25/08/2017 16:30

Everyone's views are different when it comes to letting there partner watch porn, some couples watch it together, some hate the thought of their partner watching it and others don't mind ,so each to their own, but if it makes you feel like this then maybe you both need to sit down and talk about how you both feel before it destroys your relationship further.
But if Personally if I found my partner had a profile on a certain type of website, I would not be happy to say the least. He would be out the door, shortly followed by the laptop

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Juliasmith24 · 27/08/2017 10:32

I will suggest you to look on this matter more liberally. You can read/or watch videos of Freud and Lacan's thought about human sexual fantasies and desires. To understand how these things work is a much better way to deal with the situation that you have mentioned. And I don't find any point to feel low or not good enough, you are enough good.

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Manclife · 27/08/2017 10:52

There are thousands of fee porn sites out there. Why on earth would he want to go on a 'fuck buddy' site and even then why upload a photo? That's a bigger issue than watching porn in my eyes. If he's so innocent ask for his log on details and free access.

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Jade2092 · 28/08/2017 12:23

Manclife I have add for it and he has said he has delete the account so I really don't know wat else I can do? And thank y for all the comments it is nice to think I'm not alone

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