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rambo6489 Thu 10-Aug-17 19:04:08

Basically I'm a 28 man and split up from my partner 3 weeks ago after 2 1/2 years together. I want her back and need some woman's advice on how. We have split up in the past for a few days but I've always begged and got her back. Seems this time it's the end as she has kicked me out. We ended because we constantly argue and have down for months. However I love the bones off her and can't lose her. I begged up until yesterday when I told her I would give her some space and I will use the time to get my head in a better place. Thing is I know that if I got her back now I could be everything she wanted but I feel that she thinks she doesn't want me because I'll go back to how I was. My plan is to leave her for a couple of weeks and try and get back in touch. I told her I would be in touch when I've sorted myself out and she seemed to agree to this. She told me to do it for me though and not her but also said she loves me and always will. Thing is I'm scared of leaving her and her forgetting about me or moving on. If anyone can offer some advice I'd be happy to chat x

Lweji Thu 10-Aug-17 19:06:44

Thing is I know that if I got her back now I could be everything she wanted but I feel that she thinks she doesn't want me because I'll go back to how I was

You're wrong.
She's right.

Leave her alone, sort yourself out, move on and don't make the same mistakes.

rubyandemeraldslippers Thu 10-Aug-17 19:14:15

This really depends upon what the arguments are about. You have not provided much detail. If you have split up before then I would be be surprised if you actually have any future together.

You mention going back to how you were. That needs to be addressed before your relationship has a chance.

BIWI Thu 10-Aug-17 19:16:27

Why on earth are you posting this in Blogger's Chat?!

But, to answer your question, no - you're not going to get her back. Listen to what she's telling you.

rambo6489 Thu 10-Aug-17 19:25:38

We split up because of my insecurities basically. Other men approach her and I get worried she will leave. They message her and she sees no harm in it because she doesn't like them but I see it as someone trying to wade in my territory. Sad I know but I've had time to think about all this and what she says is right. If I keep her happy I have nothing to worry about. My main concern here is the giving time thing. I know you're supposed to do no contact so she can calm down and then think straight but I'm just worried in that time she will get over me

Josephinelavelle Thu 10-Aug-17 19:32:29

If you love someone let them go. If they don't come back, they weren't yours to begin withm

traw Thu 10-Aug-17 19:34:57

Move on dude.

Lweji Thu 10-Aug-17 19:40:10

Either she's openly flirting with other man and you're well rid.
Or you're too jealous and should stop considering her your territory, and she's well rid.

Either way, it's best if you split.

rambo6489 Thu 10-Aug-17 20:21:26

Looks like I'm doomed here then lol! Well I'm thinking I'm giving her a bit of time and see how it goes. I only really posted this to see if anyone has been in a similar situation, regardless weather it was you who left or your partner and see how it panned out for you

BIWI Thu 10-Aug-17 20:30:50

I think your username is probably a bit of a clue here hmm

NoMoreDecorating Thu 10-Aug-17 20:34:31

Women are not territory. Nor are we property. HTH.

AuntieStella Thu 10-Aug-17 20:35:52

If you have been constantly arguing for months, I think it is time to draw a line.

Move on.

See a counsellor if you need someone to talk it all through with. You need to learn from this? Why are you clinging to what sounds like an unsatisfactory, argument-ridden facsimile of a relationship?

MsGameandWatching Thu 10-Aug-17 20:36:09

You sound like a complete nightmare. Thank goodness she's seen sense. Leave her alone. I fear you have stalker potential.

MsGameandWatching Thu 10-Aug-17 20:37:09

Rambo

WTF?!

BIWI Thu 10-Aug-17 21:14:30

whether not weather

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