Hi
I'm a good egg and have been supporting a bereaved friend for a few years. I have dropped everything when she has needed me despite having many difficult family commitments and health issues of my own, stayed over when she needed me always visiting her as her husband always drove at night and her car was old and she had no money (I was on carers allowance then unemployed). I helped her through inquests, meetings to complain about his medical treatment, compiling letters and wading through medical reports to pursue negligence against the NHS and I had just started a new job, college and had my beloved dad just gone into care with Alzheimers. I still dropped everything to help her and saved her a fortune in legal costs.
I suggested for a long time we had a holiday together as I am alone following my parents admission to care, but she wasn't ready and didn't feel right without her husband as they were like peas in a pod. I understood and didn't press the issue.
2 months ago she told me she was going away with friends. I said I thought she wasn't ready and she said they were paying for it and she couldn't afford it otherwise. I later asked how the plans were going as thought it was nice for her to get away and she referred to a holiday abroad with another friend she was going on. I said I thought you couldnt afford to go away and she said it was cheap and an opportunity. The other holiday is scheduled for later in the year. I did feel very hurt as at no point had I been invited or arrangements suggested between us. I was then invited when someone pulled out but I would go as didn't like the location and it was short notice for a new job.
Now she has further plans with this new friend to go to America, just the 2 of them and is buying a brand new car too.
I just feel used. I am pleased she Is starting her life over but I have given all I can and feel of no account.
She still calls mosts nights to talk about how bad she feels about her loss and I just feel like - talk to your other friend!
Your thoughts guys... Am I being mean? :(
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goodegg1 · 26/05/2014 12:06
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