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How to react when a woman steals a husband after thirty years

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RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 15:45:45

How should one react when a younger model manages to entice an older bald, but just strangely very rich and powerful, husband from her best friend. Should I try to stay strong for her, but not get into any hatefest which always gravitates to the other woman.
Should I join in and almost engineer a night of maligning the cuckoo in what was my best friends nest.
It happened to me over ten years ago, my husband was enticed away by a younger model, this as it happens was the best thing that happened to me, which I did not appreciate at the time.
Should we ladies of older years just assume that an older powerful and rich man has the means to attract gold digging women with no morals or sense of any sisterhood and accept the consequences?

purrpurr Sun 21-Apr-13 20:55:10

Mwahaha smile

Delayingtactic Sun 21-Apr-13 20:50:58

purrpurr damn you woman! I have just spluttered tea on my duvet cover!

GoblinGranny Sun 21-Apr-13 18:05:34

'It is strange how we blame the woman, when it does take two to tango.'

None of us are blaming the woman. confused
If an individual is in a relationship, then it's up to them to conduct that relationship in a respectful and loving fashion.
If they want to end it, they should do so in the same spirit.

DioneTheDiabolist Sun 21-Apr-13 16:39:44

A husband cannot be stolen.
A jilted partner can be as angry as she wants with both people. Just listen to her and be supportive. You don't have to say much, in fact you shouldn't say much at all as your lifeboat analogy makes you sound insensitive in the extreme. I doubt that your friend would be happy to be called a sinking ship.shock

BasilBabyEater Sun 21-Apr-13 16:34:51

Speak for yourself

I don't blame the woman for the man's actions.

She's only responsible for her own behaviour, not his.

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 21-Apr-13 16:32:43


Is this blog a creative writing blog? If so, no, don't think much of your story or the "my imaginary friend" angle.

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:30:12

Pride you are right of course, they should have sorted out their marriage. My friend tried but to no avail, and of course he told her constantly there was nothing wrong etc. etc.
It is strange how we blame the woman, when it does take two to tango.

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:27:28

Thankyou purrpurr I like poofoo.
I bow down to your knowledge of these threads and blog things.

PrideOfChanur Sun 21-Apr-13 16:27:01

Weird. Agree - you can't steal a person.And said older powerful rich man can just say no to golddigger.
Are you implying the marriage is a sinking ship? In which case the solution is to sort that (for both partners)

TheHerringScreams Sun 21-Apr-13 16:26:31

Ooh, never been in this topic before.

And, to XPost with everyone else, your husband wasn't stolen. He chose to go himself. It was his fault too.

WandaDoff Sun 21-Apr-13 16:26:20


AnnieLobeseder Sun 21-Apr-13 16:26:11

Well, I consider my husband to be a fully rational adult, so should he choose to leave me, that will be his decision and that is entirely where the blame will lie. The younger woman is irrelevant. Perhaps she has dubious morals, that's her problem (and will probably come back to bite her in the arse when he leaves her for yet another younger model).

There's no sisterhood about this, apart from you supporting your friend who is probably very upset right now. Some men are dicks, as are some women. People come in good and bad varieties, unfortunately.

usualsuspect Sun 21-Apr-13 16:24:04

I've never been in bloggers before.It's nice and comfy in here.

purrpurr Sun 21-Apr-13 16:22:49

Are you allowed unmonitored use of a PC, poofoo? hmm I think I'll take me bikkies and tea elsewhere...

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:21:20

Purr Purr perhaps thats just what they turn into when they get old and have their mid life crisis. They are led by their rod!!!!!!!!!!!!! (enough !!!!????)BOF

Apologies to you all for a strange beginning, but it got us all going at least.

purrpurr Sun 21-Apr-13 16:20:28

Did you just call his wife a sinking ship? And the replacement woman, a lifeboat? ??? I need more choccie digestives before I can even figure this one out, stay right there OP.

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:18:35

A man doesn't leave a sinking ship without a lifeboat.

OrbisNonSufficit Sun 21-Apr-13 16:18:07

What Goblin said. And then purrpurr made me laugh by putting in a different way.

BasilBabyEater Sun 21-Apr-13 16:16:45

A woman can't "steal" a husband.

Any more than a man can "steal" a wife.

People aren't property.

A man who has decided to leave his wife has made his own choices. He's not a passive piece of furniture who can be "enticed", he has to be willing to be enticed.

"Gold digging women" can only attract men who don't value the women they're with, but value the "gold digging women" more highly.

FGS, allow men to be responsible for their own values, beliefs and choices can't you. Just as women are responsible for their's.

NotTreadingGrapes Sun 21-Apr-13 16:16:22

No, if they are married, they should stay away.

Fuxache what is it with the married-men thing this weekend?

BOF Sun 21-Apr-13 16:16:09

What is your post about????

Your turn (hint: you need six question marks)

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:16:04

Am new to all this and thankyou Caja, should have started this in chat.

purrpurr Sun 21-Apr-13 16:15:54

You can't steal a husband, a husband is not a mindless object wandering around with his penis aloft before him like a dowsing rod, seeking a willing home, clean shirts and a gravy dinner. Pete's sake. Perpetuating stereotypes that don't help anyone.

Portofino Sun 21-Apr-13 16:15:26

What Goblin said

RRollypoofoo Sun 21-Apr-13 16:15:17

GoblinGranny gets it. Quite right you can't steal someone, but if they are married surely you should stay away.

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