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The power of a good story! After reading The Princess and the Peas my daughter decided that she would start eating peas again
Page 3, the sex industry and why I'm sick of JUSTIFYING breast feeding in public.
Me, a feminist? Yes, actually
One ex bought me an ornately wrapped pressie. I excitedly tore open the gift to the gushes of: Oh, you shouldnt have,
Only to reveal a Ladyshave.
Its got two spare blades, he quipped.
I've had a bit of a slow start to 2013 but managed to post this morning Pollyanna moments
Thank you Collector and Jerry :-)
in which I try to be sophisticated but as ever, am thwarted by malodorous dogs, Heath Robinson husbands and the children. I love them all dearly.
Today I'm a bit sad. I'm losing my lovely little cuddly boy and he is being replaced by a child with attitude.
Seeing as it's pancake Tuesday, I have blogged about not making pancakes and possibly ending up with something better.
(although I did make pancakes today)
On the anniversary of Lady Jane Grey's execution, here's a look at Delaroche's painting of the event, which is one of the most loved and rather disturbing works in the National Gallery.
Hello! My quest to eat out of the freezer continues with spinach.
back to read everyone else. Have happy days!
We have green soup about once a week, Egusta, it's a great catch all for leftover veg!
I've been back at work for a month now-knackered, but we all seem to be coping so far
I love a catch all soup for veg! We usually call it 'rubbish bin soup', i.e. the veg that is otherwise destined for the bin. Have had some surprising successes!
Hello! I've just written a post about the Opportunities in Opposites. You can find it at www.mummykindness.com and I'm pasting it here. I'd love your views!
The Opportunities in Opposites
I have been thinking a lot about the fourth point in my Mummy Kindness Manifesto:
I will accept that others will do things differently to me. This doesnt mean that theyre wrong, Im wrong, or that they think Im wrong.
I think that we are missing huge learning opportunities by negating the opinions of others who dont see things the same way that we do.
Ill give you an example . Unlike you, another mother may only give her children organic foods. Thats her choice. If deep down the reason this bothers you is that you feel that you should be doing the same, ask her advice, get some recipes. Or just accept the fact that her choice is right for her children and your choice is right for yours. Its not a competition. We all have the same goal; to be the best we can be for our children.
Your best and her best will be different and you can still both be right. She may be the opposite of you in may ways, but there are lessons that we can all learn from each other if we stop assuming that were being judged for our choices or differences in opinions.
In his book Buddhist Boot Camp, Timber Hawkeye imparts the following incredible pearl of wisdom:
The opposite of what you know is also true.
By this, he means that we all experience life differently. There are infinite theories on what is right and wrong. But however sure we are of our version of the truth, someone else can believe the exact opposite to us and still be right according to their set of beliefs and circumstances.
Few opinions are as strong as those regarding the choices we make as parents. But our job is to align our choices with our beliefs and values and respect other parents for doing the same. Even if their values an opinions differ to ours. As parents we come to our own conclusions and we must allow other parents to do the same without assuming theyre critical of us.
Nothing is ever certain in life, and especially not when it comes to parenting small children.There are no absolutes. What works for you and your family may change from one week to the next and being too judgemental about others may force us to eat our words. In fact, I remember being a perfect parent once. Then I had children! Now I sometimes find myself bribing my children with chocolate buttons before pre-school if they will JUST GET IN THE CAR!!
I have just finished reading an incredible book called Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. In her chapter on Wholehearted Parenting she says :
Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting.
This speaks so me on so many levels. I am a really strong believer in being the type of person that we want our children to be, and leading by example. But this is so much easier said than done. If we are busy judging other parents and being hard on ourselves, what are we really teaching our children? That anyone different to us is wrong? That the only right way is the way our family does things?
Brene Brown sums this up perfectly:
If we want children to love and accept who they are our job is to love and accept who we are.
Criticising other mothers perpetuates a feeling of us and them when in reality we should be pulling together. If we want our children to be inclusive of children with other values, beliefs and needs we need to lead by example. We can start by having enough faith in our own choices not to feel threatened or judged by someone whose version of right is the opposite to ours remember, the opposite of what we know is also true.
Our children will encounter so many different types of people in their lives. One of my greatest fears is that a child of mine would ever bully, exclude or discriminate against a child that was different to them for any reason. I would feel that I had failed as a parent.
I believe that this kind of behaviour is learned and that it comes from a place of fear or ignorance. An inability to accept someone who is different to us. If your child encountered someone with autism (read more about J here) or had a very sensitive child in their class (read more about W here) would they welcome their differences and get to know them?
How can we teach them this?
By embracing the Different. By accepting that the opposite of what we know is also true. By realising that those with differences to us (even if were only starting with differences in opinions on what to feed our children) are also often as right as we are. By leading by example. By having faith in ourselves.
By respecting, welcoming and learning from the differences in others and by modelling who wed like our children to be.
I made a Gruffalo Birthday Cake at the weekend!
It took AGES but was worth it, I think I struggled as I had a colossal hangover that day
Here is my pancake free, Valentine's free and egg free post - but you'd be surprised how good the resulting cake is
Jerry I tried to comment on your cake but it might have disappeared. Looks fab!
I'm 'over' winter now - I am BORED of my clothes. Looking forward to Spring and looking back at my favourite winter outfits
I've had a load of things to talk about this week but none too wordy so do take a look if you have a second to spare and you love interiors, Danish style, and random quirky pics of architecture!
Tiles: choosing patterned tiles both reclaimed and new: findthedetails.com/2013/02/10/creating-pattern-with-tiles/
Chinese ice (I hope that doesn't mean anything rude and I'm too innocent to know it!) findthedetails.com/2013/02/13/adding-colour-to-ice-stunning-ice-sculptures-in-harbin-china/
Beautiful, affordable homewares from Denmark: findthedetails.com/2013/02/11/more-lovely-details-from-denmark-this-time-tine-k-home/
Change the World Wednesday - use it up to reduce food waste!
JerryLeadBetter that Gruffalo cake is awesome! I wonder if I could make it for my soon-to-be 3 year old son...not sure mine would look as good as yours though!!
Cat is angry and has written a poem about it for Jump! Mag
Its my wedding anniversary, so a post about healthy and unhealthy aspects of a relationship. Crazy in love
Not quite the lovey dovey angle I thought it would take
I've confessed that essentially, I'm really nosy
Have you ever wondered what children's authors and illustrators like to read to their kids? Author / illustrator Maria Bogade recommends her favourite picture book on Story Snug today.
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