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Due July 08- The "Oh my goodness we're really actually properly pregnant" thread

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Minkus Wed 19-Mar-08 20:25:12

Thread title reflects the fact that every day that passes it dawns on me a bit more

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bebejones Wed 19-Mar-08 20:29:35

Can't believe we made it onto a new thread! And totally love the new title Minkus, I couldn't agree more!

Kaz1967 Wed 19-Mar-08 20:29:56

Oh I know what you mean it's starting to get a little more scary every day there is now less time to go than has already gone (eeek)

bebejones Wed 19-Mar-08 20:33:16

I LOVE the fact we are more than half way through! Still wish the sickness would stop though! But I actually feel that I can give in to the planning and preparing now, but I will be glad when the 3rd Trimester comes around!!!

pigleychez Wed 19-Mar-08 20:35:44

loving the new title!

I find it amusing catching a glimpse of myself in shop mirrors or windows. My how Ive grown!

Weighed myself earlier and ive now put on 7lbs! shock Im in shock! I know ill put on much more in the end but scary to see the scales creeping up and up!

The baby swing came today and ive put it together... soo sweet!

hope everyones ok today.

FrannyandZooey Wed 19-Mar-08 20:38:31

I think I have put on about 1 stone 10 so far pigley
it's not scary to put weight on while you are pg surely?

bebejones Wed 19-Mar-08 20:45:36

I lost a stone and a half initially with being so sick! I now way 4lbs less than I did when I first got pg, so that means I have put on 1 stone 3lbs so far, but I figure that's ok since I lost so much to start with! I'm just really enjoying the excuse for eating constantly!!!! Although maybe crisps and marmalade on toast is not good for the waistline!! Not looking forward to shedding the post pg pounds!!!!

JODIEhavingababy Wed 19-Mar-08 20:45:50

Hi all, so we've moved then have we! We must talk so much, It's not been that long since SweetKitty started the last one! grin

I'm just off to move all our lists.. Be back in a min,.....

JODIEhavingababy Wed 19-Mar-08 20:47:15

1. Bigger boobs (for those of us that started as an 'A' cup)
2. Lots of attention (always a plus as far as I am concerned)
3. Baby pressies from friends and family
4. Shopping for baby stuff
5. Good excuse to get out of things you don't want to do
6. Eat whatever you feel like because 'the baby wants it'!
7. A baby at the end of it all (ignoring the labour malarkey)!
8. Lots of lovely wriggles so you know it's there, but not big enough to really wallop you!
9. Deliciously rude dreams

JODIEhavingababy Wed 19-Mar-08 20:48:35

1 -26JUN TJUICE (FIRST BABY) GIRL
2 -01JUL LIBRALADY (DS 3.10) POOLE BOY
3 -01JUL MISSCHIKA (FIRST BABY)CAMBERWELL SURPRISE
4 -02JUL BABY3 (DD8 DS5.5)
5 -02JUL UNFITMUMMY (DD 2.7)
6 -02JUL BEEPBEEP (DD 1.1)
7 -03JUL ISAIDNO (DS 4 & 2) REDDITCH GIRL
8 -03JUL MRSCLAIRET (FIRST BABY)
9 -04JUL FRANNYANDZOOEY (DS4)
10 -05JUL MRSMADMAND (DD 1.3)
11 -05JUL PONTO (2DD 4.6 & 2)
12 -06JUL PENGUINMUM (DD 2.7)
13 -06JUL NANNYJO (3rd baby) BOY
14 -06JUL MUMMYPIG (DS1 5.11,DS2 3.7)SURREY BOY
15 -07JUL CHOCCIE (FIRST BABY)
16 -07JUL HATRICK (3DD 4, 2.8 & 15 MTHS) BOY
17 -07JUL MINKUS (DS 3.4) ROSS-ON-WYE SURPRISE
18 -07JUL CHOCOLATEDAYS (FIRST BABY)
19 -07JUL CARRIEHD9 (FIRST BABY) KIRKLEES
20 -08JUl JOCESAR (1st baby) BOY
21 -08JUL NIKNAKF (1st Baby) LONDON BOY
22 -09JUL THE PUDDINGCHEF (DS 1.6) GIRL
23 -09JUL PAULAYATES (6th baby) SURPRISE
24 -10JUL MINNIE1 (2DD 1.10 & 11MTHS)
25 -10JUL SWEETKITTY (2DDs 3.6 & 2) GLASGOW GIRL
26 -10JUL Hubarbspong (1st baby) GIRL
27 -10JUL CASS66 (DD 5 & 3) elective section YORK SURPRISE
28 -12JUL MCCHESERS (FIRST BABY)GLASGOW BOY
29 -12JUL PIGLEYCHEZ(FIRST BABY)WEST SUSSEX SURPRISE!
30 -13JUL MUMMYWANNABE (FIRST BABY)
31 -13JUL PEGGYP (DD 9MTHS)
32 -13JUL EEC (DS 11 DD 9)SURPRISE
33 -13JUL HPG (FIRST BABY)
34 -13JUL PURPLEJENNYROSE (DD21MTHS) GIRL
35 -13JUL LEGSY (FIRST BABY)
36 -14JUL GILLYTHEKID (1ST BABY)SURPRISE
37 -15JUL JODIE (DS 18MTHS) LICHFIELD BOY
38 -15JUL BORGLADY (FIRST BABY)
39 -15JUL LILYTOTHEB (FIRST BABY)
40 -16JUL POLEDRA (2DD 4&2)GIRL
41 -16JUL UMLELLALA (2nd baby)
42- 17 July, Umm Fulaan (1st baby) SUPRISE!!!
43 -17JUL SANDCASTLES (DD 4)
44 -17JUL PTIYPASI (DD 11MTHS)
45 -17JUL DISNEYSTAR (7th BABY)
46 -17JUL TAFFTAFF (1st BABY) SURPRISE
47 -18JUL MYLITTLEELOISE (DC ?)
48 -18JUL LOVELYLOU (DD 2.8)
49 -18JUL MINIPINKSCOTTISH (DS 15,13,10,2, DD 5 )GIRL
50 -18JUL SHORTSHAFE (DD 16MTHS) BOY Staffs
51 -18JUL KAZ1976
52 -18JUL BABYONTHEWAY (DS 10)
53 -19JUL HEFFA (FIRST BABY) DEVON GIRL
54 -20JUL RUMPEL (DD 17 months) - SURPRISE
55 -21JUL FROGMARSH (FIRST BABY)
56 -21JUL MIN912 (DS 1)girl s.oxfordshire
57 -21JUL MrsHOP (1st baby), S. London, BOY
58 -21JUL MONKEY24, (1st baby) Bristol
59 -21JUL SLEEPYCAT (DD3, DS12mo) BOY
60 -24JUL TWINKLE(DS8 DS2 DD 6)Hadfield TWINS
61 -24JUL SHROOMS (DS8 DD 6)
62 -25JUL FEB (DS 10 MTHS)
63 -26JUL WALKINGTIMEBOMB (DS 10 MTHS)
64 -26JUL MISSMCGOO (DS5 DD2)
65 -27JUL DIVVY (DD 18, 15, 13, 8MTHS)
66 -28JUL LIKERABBITSBX (2nd baby)GIRL
67-31JUL BREIZETTE (DD 10MTHS)
68 -31JUL LAZYHIPPO (FIRST BABY)ABERD'NSHIRE
69 -31JUL BEBEJONES (FIRST BABY)GIRL
70 -TBC JOOS (FIRST BABY)
71 -TBC CHEEKSTER (1st BABY)

11 Girls 11 Boys 10 Surprises 1 Twins

FrannyandZooey Wed 19-Mar-08 20:48:36

I am fed up of the rude dreams now tbh
I wake up and think "I just need SLEEP not a 3 hour epic fantasy"
they are all about dp at the moment as well, how dull is that wink

sweetkitty Wed 19-Mar-08 20:49:01

whooooohoooooo happy new thread it has been 5 mins since the last one though we are a gobby lot

JODIEhavingababy Wed 19-Mar-08 20:50:17

VALUABLE INFORMATION*

1. It is quite common for baby girls to have a mini-period a few days after they are born. shock It is a withdrawal bleed from the exposure to all the hormones in the womb.
(My friend told me this when she had a DD, otherwise I would have been frantic when it happened to my DD) RUMPEL

2. When your milk comes in (about 3 days after birth) they will be enormous, hot and rock hard. This extreme discomfort coincides with a happy hormone drop so don't be surprised if you spend the day sobbing. You'll feel better soon! ISAIDNO

3. Do not buy disposable paper knickers and maternity sanitary pads for after the birth, they are really uncomfortable. Instead buy some really cheap supermarket pants and Always nighttime pads. You can then throw away the cheap pants. sweetkitty

4 There are very few musts in either pregnancy or child rearing. Treat all childcare and pregnancy advice like a pick and mix counter take what works for you and ignore what does not. KAZ

5. The Lochia starts immediately after birth for which you require some form of sanitary pads. You may continue to experience pains similar to period pains for a couple of days after and possible pass a largish clot. This happened to me (the size of a small side plate) and I panicked thinking it was an undeveloped twin. After speaking to my midwife this is quite common (she'd had one the size of a dinner plate - I don't mean to alarm anyone!) but I had absolutely no idea what was happening and felt extremely scared until I'd received clarification. Best to save the evidence and show to MW or HV. Libraladyxx

6. Try and stay in hospital as long as possible, esp. until Milk comes in and your Baby blues start! As once you get home, thats it!!!! Also, try and see as many visitors in the hospital as possible, so you don't have to entertain them yourself at home! Jodie x

7. Do not wear expensive new nightwear or slippers when you are in hospital. The first time you stand up after giving birth, you will 'flood' a bit as the lochia will have pooled while you are lying down. And don't be embarrassed about it - the mws aren't! Poledra

8 Leading on form the last one you often can often flood when breastfeeding/expressing the number of poor Mums in tears I have had to borrow pads for from the wards white trousers are often not a good fashion look when you do

9. Really no point worrying in advance about embarrassing indignities during labour - you honestly will not notice or care what you do or how you behave when the day comes. Also, wear something during labour that you are happy to throw away. You may not feel like wearing it afterwards, even when it's washed.

10. If you get the chance before the baby is born (and your nesting takes full hold) cook loads of beef or quorn mince/onions/tomatoes and freeze it in take away tubs. When your new arrival appears all you've dp has got to do is boil some rice or pasta, defrost mixture and add mixed herbs or chilli beans for a really quick and relatively nutritious meal. You honestly will not want to cook.- Minkus

11. Buy Toni and Guy's dry shampoo from Boots or Batiste's version (much cheaper but not quite as good) from Superdrug. On those days post birth when your hair really needs washing but you are exhausted, and you need to leave the house but are worried that folks will think you've lost it because of the oil slick in your hair- these products are amazing and will make your hair totally presentable.- Minkus

12. I really think you can't cuddle them too much. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about wanting to pick your baby up all the time if thats what makes you both happy.- Minkus

13. If you have stithes down below or are even just feeling a bit bruised, get some super strength Arnica, also for at least a fortnight after giving birth have a bath every day with lavender oil in it. It's great for healing and preventing infection plus the lavender is really soothing. It's important to get even half an hour me time (especially if you have other DC). SWEETKITTY

14. Be prepared to spend the first few weeks sitting feeding your baby a lot (if BFing), have phone, drink, snacks to hand. I am also planning on renting some good films and DVD box sets for cluster feeding in the evenings. (I have lovely memories of feeding DD2 in bed with a good movie on). sweetkitty

15. Don't get worried if your baby doesn't poo every day, or even every other day, just be warned of the smelly explosion when it does happen. JODIE x

16. On the subject of poo (mm lovely) the first few poo's are akin to tar (very, very thick and sticky!), so try putting vasaline on babies bottom at each nappy change to make it easier to scrape off! JODIE x

17. If you don't manage breastfeeding or go onto bottles later on, make sure you invest in an avent milk holder. Fill your bottles with water as normal and take out and place the measured amount of milk in as and when required. Saves worrying about milk 'going off' when out for a day (especially in the hot weather). Water alone in a bottle won't go off. I found this was the best thing I bought. Libralady.

18. You’ll be AMAZED at how swollen your undercarriage is – no-one tells you that. I thought it was my stitches but it was my bits It is okay though, sounds worse than it is.

19. Make sure you take loads of fruit (maybe even lactulose into hospital with you in case you are in for a few days and have drugs in labour). My DH went home with mine and the hospital had NO fruit/veg/salad and served up horrid salty food. Ended up with horrific constipation and had to get the Dr out a few days after birth

20. Following on from last point - fruit somoothies seemed to work well for me in first couple of days - you really want the first post-birth poo to be as easy as possible!!

21. Dare I say it...breastfeeding might well hurt to start with but this won't last forever and it is so worth it!

22. OK another one with TMI - especially if you push for a while, you may well have bad piles - do ask the midwives for treatment, not worth being embarressed! Also second lavender in bath - pref with epsom salts - brill for healing bits and bottom!

23. I carried a spare top with me for first few weeks as boobs would leak hugely at the most unexpected moments - particularly in Tesco for some reason... SHORTSHAFE

24. Hormones do strange things to you - dd was born in October and I found my internal thermostat was haywire - i perspired massively all of the time - to the point that my hair was wet (yuck yuck yuck) until she was about 2 weeks old. SHORTSHAFE

25. Babies can fire poo explosive distances - IME around 4ft! be prepared and buy carpet shampoo/carpet stain remover before the birth! SHORTSHAFE

26. Sometimes it is painful to pee after delivery jug of warm water containing few drops of lavender oil poured over your bits while trying to pee can help. If it does not it sounds disgusting but pee in the bath. KAZ

27. After an hour and twenty minutes, if still attached, your baby is not feeding anymore, s/he has fallen asleep! 40mins would be my maximum, and the sooner both of you can learn to feed lying down in bed, soooo much the better for night feeds and your sanity. Min912

28. If you feel hot&cold and a bit 'under the weather' plus perhaps one breast is a bit sore, it's not just post-birth knackeredness, you quite probably have mastitis. Don't panic, feed or pump on the affected side (I found pumping after a feed reduced the pressure), use a hot flanel, if it doesn't get better see the doctor. Min912
28a mastitis normally effects 1/4 of a breast If practical (because it depends what 1/4 it is) try and feed baby so their bottom jaw is on that 1/4 this can help move the blockage which is usually the initial cause. As long as there are no medical reasons why you should not take most midwives recommend Ibuprofen as pain relief for this. Kaz

29. At some point you will very probably find yourself thrusting the baby at your DH/DP the minute they come in the door and running off to throw yourself on the bed in tears because you've had a mare of a day. This does NOT make you a bad mum, it means you are human. Tomorrow will be better, honest. Min912

JODIEhavingababy Wed 19-Mar-08 20:56:26

Right, done my bit!

Anyway how's it all going today? It's been really nice and quiet in my household, DS has a cold and he can't really breath, so although he was up most of the night last night, he has slept most of today so I've managed to get loads done, when he has been awake he hasn't been a 'wrecker' he's just sat there watching tele or reading books with his good Ol' Mum... been lovely! Had loads of cuddles. grin

I started to get excited about the prospect of having a baby today! I could picture me and my 2 boys playing and having fun and cuddling! I think I might turn out to be Peggy Mitchell!!! (me and my boys!!!)

Hope everyone else is OK, as I said on the last thread, glad everything is OK with Disney and I hope no one is in great amounts of pain today with the various complaints that everybody has.

BTW Great thread title!

And I'm not even thinking about weight..... Not until at least August!

PaulaYatesBiggestFan Wed 19-Mar-08 21:00:38

invaluable information

30.

You will LOVE your dp and dcs like you have NEVER LOVED THEM BEFORE in the days following delivery

23 out of 24 hours in each day are normally spent with me gazing and dp through a haze of tears and telling him how unworthy i am!

pigleychez Wed 19-Mar-08 21:07:27

FrannyandZooey -

Weight has always been an issue for me. I know ill probably be an elephant by july and not scared about it but will be deseprate to lose it afterwards.

Thanks for moving all the lists across Jodie

FrannyandZooey Wed 19-Mar-08 21:40:28

ah well I hope you can relax about it Pigley

mummypig Wed 19-Mar-08 21:42:54

hi everyone and glad to hear your good news disneystar smile (from the other thread).

Regarding being actually properly pregnant, someone near me only found out when she was over 20 wks pg and her due date is before mine now... I still can't quite believe it! I am also feeling very jealous that she missed out on all the nausea at the start.

and I am not going to weigh myself until ds3 is at least 6 months old wink.

sweetkitty Wed 19-Mar-08 21:48:38

pigley - try not to stress about the weight thing having a baby was a great diet for me. By the time I had two theres not time to stress about what you are eating, you eat when you feel hungry and never sit down. Your body is doing a great thing right now, I know I must eat lots of chocolate to make beautiful girls babies grinwink

MinniethePink Wed 19-Mar-08 22:25:31

I thought I was ok about the weight thing until I looked at that website and I'm already over what it says I should be! Am trying hard to ignore it.

the way I try to see it (during rational moments) is that we have enough to worry about - as evidenced by the stories here - not to mention all the stuff we don't yet know about, like managing with one/two/three/six etc., how to be a good mum, how will our relationships cope, what if they turn out to be delinquents or vote conservative or whatever, that weight really should be bottom of the pile. Life is too short!

Tonight I suggested Claire as a middle name to DH, because I had a family friend called that who died about 7 years ago now... and he couldn't remember why I'd thought of it and I got all upset. Just when you think the hormones are under control!

Kaz1967 Wed 19-Mar-08 23:12:26

bebejones I just seem to have so much to do in the next few months mainly to do with moving time seems to be getting away with me

JODIE you are a brick moving all that stuff and here is me just feeling sorry for my self thinking about all I have to do my tummy muscles, indigestion and my back. God I am falling to bits hmm

TJuice Thu 20-Mar-08 01:25:08

you know what, the weight thing is just bollox better to ignore.

it is hard for me too, as i have always struggled with my weight and been up and down and i feel really uncomfortable with my body being totally open to scrutiny and comment (and touch) these days. but i take it all with a pinch of salt - some people say "wow - you are big" (which was hard to hear initially - just my own head stuff) and then others say, "you're hardly showing at all for 25 weeks". so i just think "meh". i feel healthy-ish but far from fanatical and am trying not to be excessive in any way.
but its best not to compare with others -either you worry about gaining too little or too much.

(i just ate half a tub of cookies and cream haagen daaz, which is why i am on my soapbox!! i am at my parents house in surrey and its dangerous - my mum has stockpiled green and black butterscotch mini eggs and marks and spencer baklava. so i am stuffing my beak. tonight though, i had fresh asparagus soup, crusty olive bread, smoked haddock fishcakes with capers and caesar salad - she's a great cook)

glad things are looking good, disneystar and hope all is well with everyone else.

Kaz1967 Thu 20-Mar-08 02:59:19

Have decided Mum needs to worry about something or she will no survive

When I told them I was pregnant I had months of you will not cope hmm
Told her I was moving house to get rid of mortgage but won't move back home my excuse cost of living want to stick with GP and Midwife, and in the middle of this course, she worries I will not cope because on my own I have lived here for nearly 20 years FFS I do have friends in Bristol
Oh and I am looking for 1 bedroomed flats ok not ideal but once baby is bigger and I cannot cope with sleeping in the same room (I was aiming to get sofa bed in main room) and it's I don't know how we will cope hmm Hello we don't have to live with that I do

NOW I am talking and actively looking at moving up to be near best mate because we have talked it over, she is checking out a flat in her village for far less than down here and she is finally happy shock or was yesterday today she is worried I will not be able to afford to run a car which I will certainly need if living up there travelling on a bus which only runs every 2 hours with a baby and shopping is not going to be easy esp if I am not supposed to lift and carry stuff with my tummy muscles and my back hmm

Will my mother ever be happy?
I am beginning to think she never will be no matter what I do And I am fed up of having this guilt trip laid on me angry

EEC Thu 20-Mar-08 08:11:27

Well done Jodie.

Kaz - must be hard for you when you could really do with support right now. Sounds like you've got some great friends though. I know what you mean about too much to do before baby - We're moving country in 2 1/2 weeks - Have to finish doing up house here in France so it's ready for renting out. It's not even decorated yet, let alone furnished. What am I doing on Mumsnet you ask, rather than making curtains, sanding floors ...?

The house in England is in a similar (no worse) state with no kitchen... Am feeling a little overwhelmed and exhausted. Sleeping is hard enough as it is, but I am awake all night running through lists.

Sorry for long moan. Nothing to complain about really, as apart from bad back ache, physically things are pretty good at the moment (well, exhaustion aside!), and bump seems to be doing fine, which is the most important thing.

Beautiful morning here.

hatrick Thu 20-Mar-08 09:17:38

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