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Due May 05 part 3

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myermay Sun 21-Nov-04 14:13:34

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fisil Mon 17-Jan-05 19:02:53

here's the new one

fisil Mon 17-Jan-05 18:51:37

Hello all you new people - I am sooo pg that I forget the new names by the time I get to the bottom of the thread to add my message! Shall we start a new one and start by all introducing ourselves?

logic Mon 17-Jan-05 18:46:14

Hullo Preggars, welcome!

fashill, I got my TENS machine from Boots. It cost about £80 at the time, worth every penny tbh. I used it throughout labour too.

I'm not sure if the Parentcraft classes are the NHS ones! You can pick up all the information you need from books but the social aspect is important too. Just knowing that everyone is as miserable as you is great

Uwila Mon 17-Jan-05 17:31:30

Welcome preggars. So, after the baby is born, are you going to change your name? Or just keep getting preggars?

Just kidding.

I know I've asked this before, but I forget, is anyone else going to Queen Charlotte. I just think it would be funny to meet someone from here in the hospital.

fashill Mon 17-Jan-05 15:04:13

Thanks Logic!! I was a bit worried about that. Where did you get the TENS machine and are they very expensive?! Also are the NHS classes the 'Parentcraft' ones or are these different?!? Feel like I should be doing more than I am

Welcome Preggars!!!

northstar Mon 17-Jan-05 14:13:38

Hi preggars, congratulations and welcome!

Preggars Mon 17-Jan-05 13:01:04

Just want to join this thread. I am due May 22nd, and already have a fun 2year old. To keep this relevant, not got stretch marks, but my Mum didn't either. Still, I do put cream on bump, thighs, etc, as don't want to tempt fate. Anyway, hi all other May Mums2be.

Poshpaws Mon 17-Jan-05 12:26:43

I heard the stretchmarks were a lot to do with whether your mum had them, etc.

I had none with DS and none (so far) with this one. I use Ponds Cocoa Butter stretch mark cream (both times) after each bath or shower.

LittleB, grobags and sleeping bags are the same, except that Grobags is a manufacturer of sleeping bags. You cna get thme most places now, including Next Direct, Mothercare, Toys R Us

logic Mon 17-Jan-05 12:13:42

fashill, I have the same problem with my back. The NHS physio isn't that useful I find but worth a try. I have started using my TENS machine when it gets really bad. Regarding delivery though, last time my back was awful for the last half of the pregnancy but didn't so much as twinge though 10 hours of labour so I wouldn't worry too much! After the birth, the back pain didn't came back until this pregnancy...

logic Mon 17-Jan-05 12:10:33

hi everyone,

I would also recommend getting some ordinary terries nappies for the baby even if you will be using disposables like me. We bought two packs and still use them constantly. They have been used as emergency blankets, towels, vicks dispensers, sick cloths, you name it

One thing that you can't buy enough of for the birth is maternity sanitary towels. Not much fun I know but you need loads more than you think. Think 9 months worth of periods turning up at once! I drew the line at paper knickers though, they were vile - just bought cheap, huge, cotton ones and threw them away afterwards!

About the antenatal classes, in a nutshell, the NHS ones were great for info and making friends but I found the NCT ones too earth mothery and annoying but useful for information.

I admit that I got terrible stretchmarks with ds. I tried every cream imaginable to no avail. They are all over my thighs, hips and stomach. I remember seeing a picture of a woman with stretchmarks all over her tummy and being horrified and it did happen to me but tbh, they do fade to a silvery colour and I forget about them.

fashill Mon 17-Jan-05 12:07:12

Great to hear all the info on the Maternity leave subject!! Think I'd better try and request my MATB1 form then.

I've got Parentcraft classes booked but are there any others that I can try and enrol on (without it costing too muuch if anything).

Little B - I'm just like you, have stretchmarks from my teenage years on hips etc and really worried about my belly!! Been using Avent Mum to be cream and sometimes Bio Oil which is also supposed to fade stretchmarks so we will see!!

Have had to start physio due to bad back and have been told that my muscles that look after my pelvic bone aren't working properly. Does anyone have any experience of this?!? Hope it doesn't affect my delivery.

Holly - My DP felt baby last week and he was amazed!! Really nice to be able to share something with them. He's gonna start reading all my books now so he can get some sort of idea of what to do once baby is born!!

LittleB Mon 17-Jan-05 09:47:37

Hi Northstar, sorry to hear about your gestational diabetes, must be difficult to follow a restricitive diet at the moment.
I've been using moisturiser and anti-strtchmark cream to try and help prevent stretchmarks, but also because my skin has felt pretty dry too, doubt it will work though - I already have stretchmarks on my hips and thighs from growing too quickly as a teenager (not sure how as I'm only 5ft2!) so I think I'm bound to get them.

LittleB Mon 17-Jan-05 09:43:50

Oops, should have been not [cmile]!

LittleB Mon 17-Jan-05 09:43:18

Hi, I've got lots of info about maternity leave as I work for a local authority and we have a specialist maternity advisor (who has also advised private sector). MAT B1 should be available from 20 weeks (I got mine at 21 weeks)and you need to have given it to your employers with details of when you are starting maternity leave by 25 weeks, so 26 weeks (which it used to be) is too late - although your workplace may accept it anyway, mine wouldn't, your doctor can do this or your midwife. You can bring the date you plan to start maternity leave forward if you need to, like Uwila says, but you can't put it back once you've given it in writing, they will also make you start maternity leave at 36 weeks at earliest if you are off sick with pregnancy related ilness after week 36 but before starting maternity leave. I've given my employers MAT B1 and letter, saying that I'm starting maternity leave at 39 weeks, I'm taking 2 weeks leave before this, so will stop at 37 weeks, and I'm using some leave to work part time in April. I had to put all about leave in the letter too as my employers insist I use all of my annual leave before I go on maternity leave. Hope this helps.
I'm going to visit the workplace nursery today, its so popular they recommend I look around and reserve a place now even though we won't need it until jan 2006 - can't believe I'm visiting nursery and baby isn't born yet - its quite exciting though [cmile]. Are gro bags and sleeping bags the same thing? Have visions of putting my baby in gro bags next to the tomatoes in the greenhouse ! Any other recommendations would be useful, ta.

fisil Mon 17-Jan-05 08:44:57

I think it's just the luck of the draw Uwila, as my NCT teacher was very much of the "just get the baby out anyhow as long as you feel OK about it" school of thought - which suited everyone there (from the home birth, eat your placenta non-intervention lady right through to me with my "if I remember my own name I don't have enough drugs" attitude!). I think you're right about people being older though, I was 28 and one of the youngest.

Uwila Sun 16-Jan-05 21:35:40

I haven't been to NCT. But my NHS group from DD1 still gets together now and then. It started as a group of about 18, and there are about 10-15 who regularly still get together. It has been an invaluable network for me. It's always nice to compare what other babies the same age are doing in relation to yours.

As for NCT classes, I have heard that average age tends to be older than NHS (no ide if this is true). Also, they believe very much in minimum drug and medical intervention. I considered signing up for NCT this time round, but since my views on childbirth are that medical intervention is a good thing, I decided that going to an NCT class would probably just p me off. But, if you are someone who is keen to have low intervention home birth and you are committes to breast feeding for 6+ months, than you may find just the kind of support you are looking for at NCT.

Whatever you choose to do, SIGN UP EARLY.

fisil Sun 16-Jan-05 18:26:52

Holly, I think NCT are better for meeting people. At ds' 2nd bday party yesterday we had 2 NCT friends and one NHS exercise class friend. So I guess you can get friends anywhere. These friends are wonderful - they always understand!

Holly290505 Sun 16-Jan-05 17:41:37

Hi all hope everyone is feeling good! We are so excited now dp has felt the baby himself. I think its suddenly got very real for him
We spent hours looking and trying to collapse travel systems only to find that they are all really heavy and a lot of them require two hands to collapse (I have a weak left hand) so we eventually dropped the travel system idea and got an Alpine Surf pushchair from toysrus suitable from birth.

Drawback being you can't have the baby facing you but I'm guessing I probably won't be going to far with it initally anyway. We also got a cotbed in the toysrus sale! Anyway being that we now have to buy a separate carseat I wondered if anyone has any suggestions??

Also are antenatal classes good for meeting people (none of my friends are having babies yet and i'm a bit scared of being totally lonely at home with a newborn) - if so NCT or NHS or both??
Thanks sorry this is so long!

Uwila Sun 16-Jan-05 16:42:11

I read in once that the only way to prevent stretch marks is if your mother didn't get them AND her mother didn't get them. Unfortunately, my grandmother has long since gone to the grave. But I have two sisters. Neither of them nor my mother got stretch marks, and I didn't get them first time round. So I think (hope!) I'm safe this time too. Although I dod remember my belly itching from about 7 months on last time, so I dipped into the various preggy creams. And my favorite was the Boots one (in case anyone is interested).

northstar Sun 16-Jan-05 15:13:08

Anyone doing anything to try and prevent stretchmarks? I didnt get them with ds but have a feeling its inevitable this time......

northstar Sun 16-Jan-05 12:37:48

Uwila - I cannot agree strongly enough with your advice re: baba sleeping in the light in pram/moses basket/carseat anywhere during the daytime and in the dark at night in cot. Totally essential, the best piece of advice i was ever given. Ds was always a convenient sleeper, he knew he could drop off and wake up anytime during the day, but night-time was NON-NEGOTIABLE.

And yes, we still have a shelf full of baby products, i will eventually use them myself, (although i have my own preference) rather than throw them out. All we used was the e45 bath oil, and still do. It cleans and moisturises and protects the skin - and completely messes up the bath and bath toys though, very greasy but well worth it.
I'm not sure if anyone read my thread on gestational diabetes but im on a really restrictive diet and it's killing me. Anyone else suffering yet?

Brighteyes Sun 16-Jan-05 11:37:31

Thanks for the advice ladies. Been on major shopping sprees the last couple of weeks and should have everything bought by the end of Feb. leaving plenty of time for delivery (8 week wait for delivery on the nursery furniture ).

Has anyone elses dp/dh put on weight while you've been pg? My poor dp has put on over a stone in the last 5 and half months, whilst I'm only 3 pound heavier than my pre-pg weight (did lose a lot due to morning sickness though). Trying to reasure dp that its common for partners to put on weight during pg but don't think he believes me.

fisil Sun 16-Jan-05 09:05:55

I had two bottle warmers and used them all the time (one downstairs, one upstairs). However, this one is going to drink milk at the temperature it is given or go without!

logic Sat 15-Jan-05 17:54:16

I have to say that I loved my bottle warmer, used it to death! That reminds me, must buy a new one for this baby...

A clock that lights up in the dark is essential for the baby's room too. You will spend a lot of time in there at night

I bought a pine changing table which is now used as a general storage unit and shelf. Given that they are limited to your baby outgrowing them which doesn't take long, I'm not sure of the value in getting one that can't be reused as anything else.

Poshpaws Sat 15-Jan-05 17:43:18

I would like to second sleeping bags - essential.

NOT the towels with hoods (although I did use them) - some nice quality normal large towels shoud suffice.

DO NOT buy a bottle warmer if bottle feeding - took forever to warm milk and is much quicker to either microwave or put in a jug of boiling water.

Can't think of anything else at the mo, but if I do.....

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