I'll try to keep this fairly short without leaving out anything important. I have a sort of family friend who my family has known for a very long time (since she was 5 or 6 I believe). She's only a couple years older than me and the same age as my brother so we went through school together and all, and by total coincidence her parents and my partner's are friends as well. She and her husband have struggled with fertility and pregnancy, including multiple miscarriages. Most recently we both ended up pregnant and due within a few weeks of each other. Unfortunately there were complications with her pregnancy that ended in a third trimester loss. It was awful and completely heartbreaking, and I can't imagine what it's been like for her. I haven't seen her in person since, but have reached out over text to offer my support and leave things open if she needs anything or wants to talk. I've also kept anything pregnancy related off of social media because of it.
Now I'm expecting my baby within the next couple weeks. I've dealt with some guilt at times since the complications came up and it's hitting me again now that delivery is feeling so real and close, and I'm not really sure how to handle it. It's a time when I should be excited and happy (and I am, I'm so excited for my baby to be here) but I don't want to make anything worse for her, especially as I imagine the approaching due date will be a sensitive time. I just don't know how to approach announcing the birth when the time comes. Do I keep it just to immediate family for a while? Do I put something up on social media (which is my main contact with some friends and family who live far away)? Do I say something to her directly or just leave it? Am I completely overthinking?
Any help is very much appreciated
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Camia · 11/07/2020 14:15
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