Hi all
I'm 11 weeks and so getting ready and excited to share the news I'm pregnant with friends and family soon.
My very best friend of 20 years is quite quiet and bottles things up that bother her to the point her mental health has suffered over the years with bad anxiety. She also recently experienced a miscarriage. She was hospitalised with it and did not receive good emotional support from her health care professionals. This was around march / april this year. I know from our regular conversations she still struggles terribly with what happened (understandably!)
I'd like some advice on how best to let her know I'm expecting. I know she will be happy for me as my friend but I also imagine that it will bring a lot of complicated feelings and sadness for her.
Currently I'm thinking of texting her the news (will be texting our other friends too and not on group messages) so she hears it from me and I'll do it on an evening I know she will be at home with her DH so she can react however she wants and needs without being at work etc. But what do I say in the text?!
I'm conscious as I write this that it sounds terribly self obsessed, like my being pregnant will be the most impactful thing in her world but honestly it comes from a good place and not wanting her to feel any more hurt than she may already, whilst also not wanting her to feel like she's being treated differently or have her MC bought back up if she's trying to move forward!
Help Mumsnet - has anyone else been in a similar situation (on either side of the conversation) and have any words of advice on how to share the news?
Thank you!
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WingingIt101 · 09/09/2019 04:28
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