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Just found out I am pregnant!!! HELP

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S0ngbird Sun 19-May-19 08:23:43

I've just found out I am pregnant.... Problem is, I am on the pill as me and my partner agreed there would be no 3rd baby (we already have 2). Our relationship hasn't been that great lately and I know when i tell him, he's going to flip......

What do I do if he tells me to abort? As that's how I think he will react? I'm not going to lie, I'm scared BUT finding out I am pregnant again has brought me an overwhelming amount of happiness. I don't know what to do 😔

SweepTheHalls Sun 19-May-19 08:26:55

If its making you feel happy, then you gave your answer about what you want to do. Congratulations 🎊

Helsvamp Mon 27-May-19 11:29:58

Me and partner said no more after 2nd and 3rd . Now having number 4

S0ngbird Tue 28-May-19 11:05:34

I knoww but its easier said than done..... If I go through with the pregnancy and become a so gle mom of 3 as a result.... I'm not sure I'd cope financially 😔

rosesxo Tue 28-May-19 11:06:54

You can do it hun, he may be happier about it than u think x

PRichardson Tue 23-Jul-19 17:38:28

Tell him, but don’t let him force you to do something your not happy with. You both need to agree. Financially etc it all depends. I mean it’s not a nice thought to abort a child as they are a true blessing but it’s your decision to make.. hope everything turns out ok and he comes round xx

choccybuttonshelpeverything Sun 11-Aug-19 11:57:26

How have things worked out? Finding myself in similar position

que3nvic Wed 21-Aug-19 11:15:00

You need to listen to yourself, it's your body. Whatever happens is meant to be, if he leaves over that hes not good enough to be in yours or your children's lives and you all deserve better. But he may surprise you, maybe once he hears he'll be super happy. I wish you luck xxx

Crazymummyto3 Tue 27-Aug-19 02:19:47

I fell pg with our third baby as a result of missing a pill, hubby knew I'd missed a lull when we dtd so knew there was a chance I could fall pg but it still came as a complete shock to us both. As soon as I saw that line I knew that I would have the baby. Hubby on the other hand panicked, mainly about how we would cope financially and practically without any family support, and he wanted me to abort it initially. He didn't come to the first couple of scans and was kind of in denial at first. When I told him I couldn't abort the baby it took him a long time to start coming round to the idea but once we went to the 20 week scan and he saw her on the screen he completely changed. Now he absolutely adores her, agrees that having her was one of the best things to happen to our family and we are currently ttc number 4 - which was his idea initially!

I think it's often different for men as they aren't experiencing pregnancy the same as us. My husband said that when he was wanting me to abort he saw it as just a bunch of cells and not a person, whereas I saw it as a baby from the second I saw the line. It was just panic, I think men often also go straight into the practical mode of how to afford it etc whereas I was thinking with my heart rather than my head. At the end of the day, he can't force you to have an abortion if you don't want one. You need to talk to him, you might be pleasantly surprised by how he reacts or it may allow a bit more time for him to get his head around it.

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