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Blingage1 Thu 18-Apr-19 17:27:40

Hi, quick one. My mum is coming back from Spain to visit for 10 days and during that time it is my sisters 30th birthday. My mum arrives on the Thursday and the following Sunday it is my sisters birthday. On the Thursday me and my fiancée want to announce to them both that we are pregnant with our first child. We want to do this then so my mum can have the maximum time with us with this exiting news. She will be ecstatic. However I don’t want to ruin my sisters birthday thunder on the Sunday. We will not be telling anyone else on her birthday as it’s a couple of weeks still until our 12 weeks scan. I just wanted to know other people’s opinions on wether it is acceptable to tell them both just before my sisters 30th. Thank you.

JaretsGirlfren Thu 18-Apr-19 17:28:55

Yes, totally acceptable flowers congratulations

AventaRizon Thu 18-Apr-19 17:29:00

Personally, I'd wait until the Monday.

chipsandpeas Thu 18-Apr-19 17:29:54

Tell her after your sisters birthday

UCOinanOCG Thu 18-Apr-19 17:31:15

I think as you are telling both your mum and your sister quietly away from the birthday celebration on the understanding that it's not for wider broadcast then that is fine. It may also help your sister to know why you might be not drinking or weary or nauseous at her party.

Lexilooo Thu 18-Apr-19 17:32:05

You could tell your Mum when she arrives but ask her not to tell anyone else until after your sister's birthday. Then tell your sister after her birthday

Mintandthyme Thu 18-Apr-19 17:33:07

My sisters and I would not have given a shiny shite about this.
However you know your sister. Is she likely to feel miffed at having her thunder stolen ?

KateyKube Thu 18-Apr-19 17:33:21

You don’t have “birthday thunder” when you’re a 30 year old adult. You have a birthday, one day, and it’s not an issue if your sister reveals her pregnancy three days beforehand.

tardyheart Thu 18-Apr-19 17:34:14

Congratulations, and how lovely you will be able to tell your Mum in person.

I would wait until the Monday, your Sister has arranged the party & that is the purpose of your Mum's visit, your news is the bonus. You will still have a week to share your excitement. TBH is you are not drinking at the party they may well guess.

Lexilooo Thu 18-Apr-19 17:34:35

Telling them both before would also be fine, as long as you don't tell people on her birthday or make a fuss at the party. It is only a 30th birthday you don't have to tiptoe round her all week

NotMyUsualTopBilling Thu 18-Apr-19 17:35:53

Tell her afterwards, tbh once you've told her there won't be much more excitement to be had until later in the pregnancy so you really don't need "maximum time" when she's here to share the excitement of her daughter's birthday anyway.

GorkyMcPorky Thu 18-Apr-19 17:36:46

It's three days before a 30th birthday. I don't see the problem at all.

Zoeputthatdown Thu 18-Apr-19 17:37:09

I would wait until Monday, some people do make a fuss of -0 birthdays. Your mum (and sister) will still have months of happy anticipation.

Blingage1 Thu 18-Apr-19 18:03:05

Thank you all for your replies and congratulations. My sister is over-sensitive and over-dramatic which is why I was worried. I would definitely have no intentions of saying it to anyone else at her party. And I would tell my mum first but she will be staying with my sister so there won’t be anytime that I’d be alone with her.

NotMyUsualTopBilling Thu 18-Apr-19 18:16:15

I definitely wouldn't tell your Mum beforehand if your sister is likely to be upset by it.

I wouldn't be bothered if it were my siblings but it sounds like she would.

ImMeantToBeWorking Thu 20-Jun-19 12:47:49

If at 30 years of age your sister can not be happy for you and DP even if it is a few days before her birthday she needs to grow up. If you were doing a big announcement I would understand holding off but you are telling two very important people. I would go for it personally!

HayleyHaystack Thu 04-Jul-19 14:18:25

I’d wait until after your sisters birthday. It’s her 30th! We had our 12 week scan on the day of our nieces 1st birthday and made a decision to wait a week afterwards before telling that side of the family. It just felt right. It’s their day. An announcement like this can happen at anytime.

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