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Ricoetbello Tue 08-Jan-19 18:07:20

I've heard people say to women or families things like "don't worry next time you will have a boy" or "you need a boy to carry on your family and finances"

Has anyone experienced this while pregnant or after having a girl/girls?

It's sad that people can openly say things like this and think it's ok.

Cornishmumofone Tue 08-Jan-19 18:52:52

No. No-one said anything crazy like that to me. I think it must be the specific group of people you are mixing with who gave out-dated viewpoints.

SuzieBishop Wed 09-Jan-19 10:29:12

I already have a DS who is nearly 2 and have a DD on the way - the amount of people who have said "oh you'll be so happy/relieved you're getting one of each!" I would of been perfectly happy with another boy - really not sure with the obsession over having one of each!

MarshaBradyo Wed 09-Jan-19 10:31:23

I’ve never heard anyone say the finances ones

Have they said it to you?

- Are you writing an article?

goldengummybear Wed 09-Jan-19 11:36:41

Are you in another country? In my experience people get more excited about girls because they assume that women will enjoy shopping for girl's stuff more.

NicoleNoPants Wed 09-Jan-19 11:38:26

I think most people assume women want girls

EyeDrops Wed 09-Jan-19 11:56:31

Not in the same way you've said, but I'm currently expecting girl #2 and have had several "Oh that's a shame, one of each would have been nice," and "Well you'll have to have another then to have a boy too!"

It drives me nuts, I'm really excited to have a second little girl. In any case, it's no-one else's business!

Leleophants Fri 25-Jan-19 17:50:37

Hopefully these outdated views are changing! What a shame.

Crazybunnylady123 Thu 21-Feb-19 09:34:00

With my first I leaned towards a little girl, I had my childhood toys to pass on, a girls name dp and I loved. I was over the moon to have a little girl. Now trying again and I’m really not bothered what I have. If I get a boy great another little girl also great. I will be stopping at two kids! smile

elQuintoConyo Thu 21-Feb-19 09:39:53

A friend had 2 boys and was expecting a 3rd, she got this off a lot of people, "aw, are you disappointed?". Mostly it's just people trying to show an interest, but I agree it is a pretty stupid thing to say. I gave a positive 'oh how lovely, a little clan of boys' but that doesn't mean her having a girl would have been any 'less', iyswim?

The comment in the OP about finance - no, never heard anything like that.

Bigonesmallone3 Thu 21-Feb-19 09:41:00

Never heard anything like it

How stupid

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