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Just found out I'm pregnant... how do I hide it throughout Christmas?

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abw94 Sun 09-Dec-18 23:47:43

I've just found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant after 10 months of trying so my partner and I are very protective over this pregnancy. Our issue is we don't want to tell anyone till we've had our 12 week scan. As Christmas approaches we have a lot of parties and holidays to attend!! Fortunately (unfortunately) I've been on antibiotics this week so was able to avoid many questions. However, we have a party on Christmas Eve and the week in between Xmas and NYE, we are going abroad with four friends over NYE and then we are going away with another couple in January (all before we will get our scan!) has anybody got any tips on how to avoid the question or put them off the scent? We want to tell the world, however, with this being my first pregnancy I'm very scared of it going wrong and want to see baby before we tell a soul. Help please!

ChipsAreLife Sun 09-Dec-18 23:54:10


So few ways around it. For the parties can you drive and say you don't want to hungover for Christmas Day etc?

For the weekends away you could just say you e had some stomach issues and been told not to drink as it aggravates it? Will also help you if you're feeling crap as it covers that.

Also don't underestimate how just holding a glass of wine prevents any questions. I did this loads and no one blinked an eye or notices that you're. It topping it up!

Good luck!!

PrincessScarlett Mon 10-Dec-18 00:00:04

Agree about holding a glass of wine. I was rubbish at hiding my pregnancy and the anti biotics line is used a lot so arouses suspicion. My sister told me she would hold a glass of wine, pretend to sip and then sneakily swap with her husband's half full or empty glass. Apparently it worked a treat.

Congratulations by the way!

abw94 Mon 10-Dec-18 00:07:06

Thank you @ChipsAreLife and @PrincessScarlett I will try those! The antibiotic line already raised suspicions last night and that was day 1 of finding out! And I genuinely couldn't drink on them. I think I'll be able to handle the Christmas period with the driving excuse and say I'm hungover from the night before where I can. I've already told my partner I will order an alcoholic drink but to bring me something that's a good disguise, I just worry if he orders them when he's with a party of the group they will clock on. What a pain!! I can't wait to share our news so we don't have to dodge the question but also loving having our own little secret for now

ladycarlotta Mon 10-Dec-18 13:08:32

a plain coke/lemonade/soda water with ice and a slice (NOT in a pint glass) is your friend - nobody has to know there's no spirit in your mixer.

Agree that just holding a glass of wine is a good cover, as long as you aren't in the habit of drinking whatever's in your hand. You'd be amazed how little people actually notice what you do, and also how little you actually need the booze to have fun. It's much harder in small groups, but at parties it'll be easy.

67oonkin Mon 17-Dec-18 21:28:12

I was maid of honour for my friends wedding but wasn’t telling anyone I was pregnant yet. I did as suggested and accepted glasses of champagne when offered then at the evening reception had vodka and lemonade minus the vodka. Usually you’ll find if you don’t make a big deal with an eloborate excuse people don’t realise.

Congrats though! Exciting times

anon400 Mon 17-Dec-18 21:34:03

I had a friend who drank Ribena instead of red wine. Not sure of the logistics but this was at her house though. No one suspected and all thought she had been drinking.

RockingAroundTheChristmasTree1 Mon 17-Dec-18 21:41:36

Just say your on antibiotics..that's what I said when I was pregnant last Christmas, I said I had a urine infection..No more batted an eye lid 🤷‍♀️

Polkapjs Mon 17-Dec-18 21:55:22

If saying you’re on antibiotics you have to make sure they’re the ones you absolutely can’t drink on. Otherwise you’ll be rumbled big time. Agree with getting wine if you usually drink it and just not drinking it

HarrietM87 Mon 17-Dec-18 22:02:01

As other people have said, don’t make excuses. Just accept drinks and don’t drink them, leave them lying around/lose them/swap with your partner. Drink the occasional soft drink and say you’re pacing yourself because you got so drunk yesterday/last week. Worked for me! When anyone I know starts to explain why they’re not drinking I immediately suspect they’re pregnant!

ChikiTIKI Mon 17-Dec-18 22:08:21

Congratulations! I would say don't have prepared excuses, it's so obvious. Either pretend to drink (have Coke, say it's rum and Coke only if anyone asks), or say you don't want to drink because you are driving or something.

I just drive everywhere when pregnant smile

Bigonesmallone3 Mon 17-Dec-18 22:10:11

When u go away in jan say I'm doin dry jan..
Drive to the do between Xmas and NYE?
Say u feel off, u don't fancy it?

abigailthespiderinthehat Mon 17-Dec-18 22:15:35

I used to say I was way too hungover from the night before to drink... worked a treat! Obviously you can't pull that one too often though hmm

ScrantonTheElectricCity Mon 17-Dec-18 22:19:56

Say you've started the Cambridge diet - not allowed any alcohol on the stricter steps unfortunately

anniehm Mon 17-Dec-18 22:33:08

If I'm not drinking I simply have "vodka and tonic" but I don't put vodka in. On arrival if offered wine I say, actually could I have water first, not had a drink all day. Failing that I just drive!

RockingAroundTheChristmasTree1 Tue 18-Dec-18 00:05:18

No one questioned me on whether I could drink or not on antibiotics.. I don't think people look into things that much! Well they certainly didn't with me !

randomsabreuse Tue 18-Dec-18 00:14:42

New year health kick good for January. Make sure you lose the who is driving argument. Both are not obvious.

WeeBean Tue 18-Dec-18 12:35:56

Glass in the hand works a treat! I was 5 weeks on our wedding day and had a glass of prosecco in my hand or in front of me at the meal and later switched to "rum" and coke, no one had a clue on the day my husband and me were centre of attention!

Good luck and relax, the more you fret about excuses the more obvious it will be that something is up.

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