I hope you ladies can give me some advice. I’m 36 and have just found out I’m pregnant. Kids have always been a sort of notional idea for my husband and I rather than a reality. We never really dared take the plunge.
I ran out of the pill about 3 weeks ago and have literally had sex once in that time. I knew it was risky but threw caution to the wind. I literally did not think at 36 you could get pregnant in one go. Plus I’ve been on and off the pill for ten years.Anyway, once was enough! I’m now 5 weeks gone.
I suspected something was up as my period was late and I’ve been feeling rather sick. However, I said nothing to my hubster.
I was really sick at work earlier this week and I started to go from suspicion to just knowing that I was pregnant. My husband was away tonight so I did two tests and both immediately turned positive.
I’m really happy. There’s a long way to go but I’m delighted st least that I know I can get pregnant. But I need to tell my husband when he gets home tomorrow. I didn’t tell him that I’d runout of the pill or that I was worried. I wish I had but I really didn’t think I’d get pregnant Snd didn’t want to worry him unnecessarily. I think he will be ok but totally shocked. He’s not expecting this at all. I feel like I have really failed h by not just telling him when I suspected even more so for knowingly having unprotected sex.
Any advice most welcome. I’m going to tell him as soon as possible. Thank you 😊
Just sit him down when you can talk comfortably, spot of tea perhaps and just tell him that you're expecting and how you think it happened. Tell him you're happy about it. Then give him some time to process. He's probably going to be gobsmacked for a bit.
Congratulations! I posted something similar a couple of months ago. Again, we had DTD exactly once, and because I'm rubbish on dates and calendars I wasn't even sure it was the 'dangerous' time. In my case DH found the test in teh bathroom and came downstairs to ask me if I had anything I wanted to tell him. In our case number 5 is now on the way after a 5yr gap! I hope your DH takes the news as well as mine did
Congratulations! I would try to make it obvious you're really happy & think it's a great thing - if you look anxious and nervy it sets him up to see it as a bad surprise. Look the pill isn't 100% so this could have happened at any point in the past 10 years, so don't give yourself too hard a time. But between you & me, youre 36, never brave enough to formally take the plunge.... was this really a complete and total accident OP? Not even a subconscious 'let's roll the dice just this once...'?
Similar happened to me. I had done the test but left it on the side as thought it'd be negative (done them previously when late and been negative) so when I saw the BFP out of the corner of my eye I swore a lot and started stressing about how to tell DH. The only booze I had in was port so I had to have a glass of that for him ready - he was shocked but very happy. I still remember now him moaning about work and I had to tell him to shut up 😂 big congratulations. I'm sure your DH will be ecstatic. My son is now one 😊
He is delighted! Absolutely delighted. He said he would have never gone for it if he knew he was trying and was actually glad that it happened like this. I guess I knew It could happen I just really thought it was unlikely to have a ' happy accident' at my age. Oh well.. thanks for all your answers.