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How to tell the inlaws!(6 Posts)
Hi, my partner and I recently found out we are expecting a baby. We are in a good financial position, strong relationship and have our own house (so in as good a position as anyone else to have a baby lol). We have told my parents and they are over the moon. However... we don't quite know how to tell his parents. Only last week his mum made a comment about 35 being the ideal time for him to start a family. He is 25 and I am 27. Please has anyone any advice on how to break the news to her? She's absolutely lovely but we just aren't sure of her reaction.
Are they grandparents already?
I always thought it would have been lovely to have young grandparents. Guess what, our baby is going to get that! It's brilliant: and we know you will be just fantastic, no baby could ask for better. So exciting.
Make it upbeat, not defensive nor asking for approval, make it positive about them. If they have a special interest, include it.
I can't wait till you take bump fishing: I'm told it's brilliant for bonding and teaching them patience. And formula 1 as well, alongside Wagner, quilting and circus. Magic combination. We just won't be able to get a look in. Bump will be so proud to be with you.. I can just see it.
ok, a touch ott but will they notice? Doubt it.
Oh, and if they start complaint about age, you say,
"Completely understand where you're coming from. But did you know the best biological age to have a baby is 19? 19!!! What age did you have DP? " Get her on to her experience.. ask her about it..
No they're not grandparents yet, it will be their first one as my partner is her eldest child, and her second son is only 14. My partner is concerned as she is a worrier, and I think he's worried it will set her off. Making it a positive thing about them is a good tip, thank you
If you are thinking if godparents, or the secular equivalent ska sponsors, could you have her second son?
"We are thinking about how to involve others, a bit like godparents. We thought it would be really good to have a role model nearer sprog's age. What do you think about DS2? It would be really brilliant to build that relationship from the get go, and sprog would have someone to look up to, as well as his GPS"
In our experience, you can't have too many: the child feels supported and surrounded, and the age range is good. Our youngest was I think 17, possibly 19. It's great because they're now friends as well.
I suggested that too, I thought it would be nice to have our siblings as the godparents, to keep them involved. I think she will be pleased, it's just my partner is so worried about initially telling her