suis finally meets Alexander the Great ! Very long...... you have been warned.(15 Posts)
Alexander Kinross Stirling Mooney made his appearance in the world on Valentine's Day at 17:52 at a very healthy 9lbs 6oz.
And here's how we did it....
Monday 12th Feb (40wks +1) My Dad brings over the table top changing unit he made, thus completing the nursery. Feeling well hacked off with being pregnant, but superstitiously wanting to avoid the 13th for a birthday.
Tuesday 13th Feb
05:00 - woken with big sharp pain in my back on the left side only. Have to walk around the house to relieve it. However it dies down and DP heads for work, but with a fully charged phone.
07:30 - woke again with a feeling like having a water balloon between my legs. I wonder what will happen if I move. Then I move and my waters break as I leap(ish) out of bed. Thank heavens for sleeping in tracksuit bottoms, not a drop on the mattress, just bottoms and the carpet.
10:00 - have to ask my Dad to take me to the hospital to get checked out. (Dad acts cool but swears at all other drivers on the road there and back) DP starts organising cover at his shop as he is the only permanent staff member in this week !
12:00 - Still leaking, got monitored and examined at hosp, everything fine, to come back for induction next morning if there's nothing happening. Have to go home in soaked trousers sitting on a towel.
16:00 - contraction start as soon as DP arrives home.
20:00 - contractions becoming regular but bearable with TENS machine. However, I was given a TenaLady pad for the leaking which I flushed without thinking about it. DP discovers, after using the toilet that it's completely blocked. However he is unable to be angry with me as I am now having quite strong contractions. After being up past his elbow in...... it.... we have to call my Dad to come over with some long hose and fix it, meantime I'm trying to hide the contractions from him so he won't worry.
22:00 - contractions becoming more painful and frequent at about 6-9 mins. call hosp, told to try and get some rest if I can and call back later.
24:00 - Send DP for a nap as he's been up since 5:30 and it's likely to be a long night.
Wednesday 14th Feb
01:00 - Wake DP with shouting and swearing through contractions which have just gone to every 3-4 mins and v v paiinful. Call hosp and tell them I'm coming NOW. Get the L plates on the car (DP hasn't passed yet !!) and off... All credit to DP he drove swiftly and steadily despite being a learner with a screaming banshee in the passenger seat every 3 mins or so.
02:00 Get to hosp and have to be wheelchaired in bellowing.
Memories of the next few hours are pretty jumbled... I was found to be 5cms dilated (v disappointed in this) I used gas and air... lots of it... but the mouth piece kept coming off !!!! I was copiously sick all down DP... I used a birthing ball and lots of walking around, kneeling on mats and leaning on the bed... I said I wanted my cat.... I swore violently and kept apologising to everyone.. DP tried to persuade me to take some fresh air in between contractions... I used a small cuddly elephant to try and focus on the baby during contractions (which actually helped a lot).
Upshot was the LO was back to back and suspected to be deflex as well. I was advised to take morphine (no arguements from me) and carried on. Mid morning I was only 8cms and offered an epi (again no agruments from me)as they wanted me on a drip to stimulate the contractions... however it didn't take properly and it had to be repeated .. I now love epidurals.
17:00 - 8 hours of drip and still only 8cm. Not clear if LO has turned now or not. Now been in labour for 26 hours. Consultant advises CS as the risks to me and LO will only increase if we continue and the drip's not working.
Quick top up on the epi and swiftly into theatre, somewhat terrified about the whole process and very upset at having to abandon the natural delivery I had wanted. DP appears looking dashing in blue scrubs and hat...
17:52 Feels like someone is doing the washing up in my tummy, and moments later... we hear a baby screaming... DP looks over the screen and tells me that we have a boy ! The most beautiful thing I have ever seen is then flashed past me and taken off to get quickly checked before being handed to his Dad. All fears and concerns gone as I gaze at the new love of my life. We decide to name him Alexander before we are even out of the theatre.
... the memory of the whole thing is fading fast now... and the days after were a bit of a blur too. I've had an infection in the wound (about as damn near painful as the contractions but without the good pain relief) and we've had problems trying to establish bfing resulting in a whole week in the hosp. Now home and very weepy and exhausted but glad to be back in my own bed.
wow !! epic labour then ! and learner driver DP taking you to hospital !! eeeek!
congratulations and welcome to your darling boy, what gorgeous names !
sounds like you were a trouper !
Well done suis - dont be too disappointed you didnt get the birth you wanted - it is the end result that really matters! What a good weight!!
Wow Suis - that's quite a story Hope the infection clears up soon.
Congrats to you both on the birth of Alexander - and well done to your dp for being able to drive "with a screaming banshee in the passenger seat"
there'll be lots of help on here for the feeding, as I'm sure you'll discover. Good luck, but DON'T beat yourself up about it - that's quite a story!
Suis - many congratulations and WELL DONE in managing your epic labour. It brought back memories of my DS's birth (also an Alexander) - I too had an em cs but under a general anesthetic as there was no time to give an epidural due to baby's heart rate falling - It took me a long time to come to terms with "not being there" at my son's birth. But the point is that you carried him safely for 9 months and did all you could to ensure his safe arrival in the world under very difficult circumstances - That is not failure but success .
Good luck with the BF - it is often difficult to get established but perseverance and willingness to try different positions/techniques should help. Also when expressing you need to express once during the night - I think it is something to do with hormones (isn't it always) but it helps you maintain/build your supply. I found feeding lying on my side was the best way to get DS latched on after a CS - it is also a nice relaxing to position and not one necessarily associated with BF for your LO.
Big congratulations Suis. What a long labour, so glad it all worked out in the end in that you have a healthy baby boy. Good luck with the feeding. Please don't beat yourself up, you're doing great.
Congratulations, Suis, you did amazingly well. I too have had similar epic labours, the last one four weeks ago with Felix, but my daughter was a caesarian and I agree with whoever said try breastfeeding on your side, it really helped me then and in fact I still find it's the only way to get a proper rest this time too. Good luck with it.
WOW! Well done suis!
Congratulations and welcome to Alexander.
Hope infection clears and BFing gets easier.
Well done - what a story!
How did your learner dh get home?!
wow suis! what a story!! flip me. make sure you print it out and put it in your baby box. at your poor dp still l driver having to drive whilst you in so much pain. feel equally sorry for both of you at that point!
sorry that things didn't go how you'd have liked - but it's the end result that matters and you now have a son! sons are great btw - so affectionate .
have you got a phone number for the nct bf support line? i could get it for you... also there are bf support groups all over stirling and area - i know friday morning one is in stirling baptist church in centre of town.
sounds like you're doing fabulously well - hope you have some energy left to enjoy your precious lo...
lots of love.
What a traumatic couple of days you had. I hope you are beginning to feel a bit better now. It's really tough having a "bad" birth - and by that I mean something far removed from the ideal birth you had envisaged - but it does get better with time, and talking about it really helps too.
If you still feel weepy in a few days time, it might be worth finding out if your hospital has a listening service so you can talk through the birth with them and find out why it happened the way it did.
congratulations Suis. what an epic story. I also had a Csection. Don't worry about the feeding - I know that is easier said then done , but I had a bit of a bad time in the hospital too and have only strted to get the hang of it since we got home and I can take time. try lying down. This really helped me.
Congratulations Suis - really happy to hear that you are home again. Enjoy your lovely boy!!
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