My big strong dad who'd looked after me, gave me the strength and confidence to become who I am, needed me in his last couple of months.
I did everything for him and fought his battles with doctors, sorted out his affairs, looked after my mum.
When the time came, although my mum and sister were with him, he was asking for me and I got there. I leapt into his arms on the bed and there was a small movement and he took his last breath. I really think he held on for me - knowing he could let go if i was there, as I would know what to do.
I did then do everything - arranged the funeral and wake, sorted all the finances, did everything to protect my mum from having to do anything.
I have a charmed life but I'm also one for not burdening others. So whilst I'm going about my life saying i'm OK, I'm actually dying inside. If I didn't have my dh and dcs to consider i feel like i could just lie down and not wake up. I would never, never really end it all but i can't stop myself feeling like i want to. What is the point to anything anymore.
A big strong man who influenced so many people was gone in a second right infront of me. What's the point of anything.
I'm at the stage of disbelief that its all happened and just have this black hole inside.
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My dear dad passed away in my arms
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TeriHatchetJob · 04/05/2010 14:50
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