So my Grandma has not even been buried yet and the slagging off has already started.
I am one of 11 grandchildren, me and my brother were the only one's who ever saw her for various reasons. Not often, due to many past issues etc etc. We were not that close, my Dad died 10 yeats ago as were closer after that, she was hard work and told me to go 20 minutes after I got there sometimes. I took her out for lunch, afternoon tea, took her great grandkids to see her, my husband did some shppoing for her and sorted out heating etc etc, got her flowers etc etc.
But apparently what I did was no enough, according to a friend of my Grandmas's who was a good friend in the past ten years. She intimates that some how me and my family were inferior as her family would not have behaved in that way, according to her breaking my Gran's heart, which is bullshit.
Then my Uncle gets on the phone, talks at me and tells me to butt out of all arrangements and to speak with no one about them as it will be done his way and that is it, he then put the phone down on me. Said Uncle fell out with his own kids, 3 of them over 10 years ago and has not spoken to them since. Figures he's a twat then.
My other Uncle, her eldest son fell out with her years ago and that rarely saw each other since. He has been banned from the funeral by my uncle.
I suppose it is all down to a matter of opinion, but what the fuck is it will people and death and funerals? I have spent the last 3 hours crying about it all, I am annoyed at myself for getting so upset and furious at the same time for all these people being so revolting and cruel.
This family friend has MARTER written on her forhead 'I chose to care for her and I don't want any thanks for it' Oh really, could have fooled me. She was in a BUPA care Home FFS being cared for. There are plently of other absent family members if she wants to kick off at them.
I would really like to get some of the photo's/or copies that she had of my Dad, but I suppose I have a snowballs chance in hell.
Anyway just venting. I really don't want to go to the funeral now, to either get upset in front of them or blurt out something and loose my head. But I will.
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carocaro · 28/12/2009 22:23
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