Hi
Looking for a bit of advice really. A former colleague of my dh wife has died suddenly and unexpectedly this week leaving 2 small dc age 6 and 1 .
Feel I want to send the children some sort of toy / gift not to say "happy Xmas" obviously, it would not be appropriate and they will be wanting their dear mummy, not presents, but just feel at this time of year.. and they have very little family, I know Christmas is the last thing their dad will be thinking about.. but am just thinking about the eldest esp, he should have some presents to open on Christmas day just like his friends, his dad may want this for him but feel unable to deal with this. Though obviously I don't know this for sure, and am worried that giving gifts could be seen as v insensitive. Sort of want to help keep some normality going for the eldest and convey our sympathy, let them know we are thinking of them, but not wanting to do something that could upset the family at the same time. Just feel really sad for them and want to do something, but don't know what to do or say, and don't know them at at all well which doesn't help.
Any advice appreciated, and hope I'm not upsetting anyone if my intentions aren't coming across well.
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Gifts for small children who've lost their mum - appropriate or not
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columbolover · 16/12/2009 21:51
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