The 2 yo dd of one of my close friends has been suffering from meningitis for the past 2 months. We had hoped that she was making a slow recovery but we found out this week that her condition is deteriorating and that she has been moved to the childrens hospice.
We are all devastated and I am looking for advice on
- how to help my friend and her family now and in the medium to long term. I am scared of doing and saying the wrong thing. I have been texting regularly and have been into see my friend in the hospital where her dd was. Was also dropping off food parcels to her house. Now she is in the hospice am not sure what to do. Texting seems so crass but want her to know that they are in our thoughts.
- explain to my dd (3.2) that her friend and playmate is dying/ has died. She has not seen her since she went into hospital but still talks about her. Most of the books I can find talk about the death of older people and the natural cycle of life . How can I explain to her something that seems even to adults so inexplicable and cruel?
Any advice would be much appreciated