I need a cuddle

[Fabster]

I know it is against the rules to talk about another thread but I have just read one that made me feel at first but now I just feel really really and I worry I will never accept or get over it that I will not have both my babies here and my dc won't have their twin. I lost the baby early on but they were real to me from 6 weeks and I am just so .

[Fabster]

Thank you.

I thought it would get easier as time went on....

[TrinityHasAVampireRhino]

all three of mine were real as soon as I know they were there

I'm so sorry for your loss

[biggirlsdontcry]

oh fab i know what thread you are talking about , so for you ,

[Fabster]

Thank you Trinity. It means a lot from you with all you have to cope with. I feel when others have bigger losses.

[Fabster]

Thank you too biggirlsdon'tcry. I missed your post. That thread is a difficult one whether it is true or not.

[biggirlsdontcry]

weather it is true or not i think she has done the wrong thing & deceived her dh ,
i read your post on that thread & felt so for you , that must have been so hard for you to go through .

trinity - how are you doing ?

[TrinityHasAVampireRhino]

not bigger

loss is loss

[Fabster]

Trinity - I have a bag of clothes and slippers for you, just waiting to get money for the postage and then I can get them off to you.

[Fabster]

Thank you herbietea.

When I had my first m/c I was okay as I figured we had been lucky to have had 2 children and no losses but DH was very upset. Now he is okay and rarely thinks about it whereas I see reminders all the time.

[tinkerbellesmuse]

Aw Fabster ((hug)) from me too - I have been guilty of repeatedly saying in the last few weeks that I would do anything to be pregnant (DS was stillborn in August) but of course really I wouldn't.

What I would have done is anything to ensure that DS had survived and anything to ensure that any future pregnancy is as healthy as I can make it.

The thing is the other poster (if indeed she is real - and I doubt it) wanted twins. The depths of other peoples desire are impossible to fathom, the lengths that they will go to often impossible to understand.

I can't tell you you'll ever accept your loss or get over it - I can't imagine that I will ever do so with mine. 'tis crap bit try not to let other (strange) people make you feel worse.

[Fabster]

Thank you tinkerbellesmuse.

I do feel silly and embarrassed as my loss is minor compared to some. I am so sorry for your loss. . I can't help how I feel though. I predicted I would have twins that time. Couldn't believe it when I saw them on the scan.

[tinkerbellesmuse]

You shouldn't feel either silly or embarrassed. Your heart was broken, expectations dashed, life changed.

It hurts. Nothing anyone can say can take that hurt away but please don't let something someone says make it worse.

[Fabster]

I take things to heart sometimes.