My mum died in September. It was expected but very quick - less than 4 weeks from dx to death. BUT it was a good death; she was in her 80s, ready to die and looking forward to meeting her maker and seeing my dad again.
That was OK. Big bro is executor and it is all being dealt with.
Then my little bro had a heart attack and died last Monday. I am not sure what I am doing posting about this. I don't know what I want from people. I can't take it in properly - yes, I know it's early days. The undertaker was a vile man, who wouldn't even look at me - would address everything he said to my big bro even when I'd asked the question (and as big bro is still working on mum's stuff, I'm dealing with little bro's). I had to go to London from Devon to his flat and police wouldn't give me the keys and I had to stay in a hotel which was OK but I wanted to be in my bro's flat with his stuff there and see where he was when they found him and the police eventually gave me a basic set of flat keys so I could get in, but I need keys to various storage units and all sorts of other things - his garage and god knows what. And I keep wondering if it's really all worth it, except I have dd, and I can't leave my big bro or dh and I really don't know what I'm saying or doing, but whatever it is, I don't really want it. I tried to distract myself on the X Factor thread, but it's not working.
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Jux · 07/11/2009 21:14
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