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DelGirl Fri 03-Jun-05 10:52:17

Wasn't sure where to post this and whether or not to post at all but my heart is set to burst. Sorry if that sounds really mushy but DH died 3 years ago today and now I have his DD who will be 7 weeks old on Sunday.

She has had the best nights sleep I think she's ever had and therefore, so have I. And she's been smiling and making contented noises this morning. I would say all morning but that would be a slight exaggeration.

Anyway, I just want to squeeze her so tight and would eat her if I could. More than a big part of me thinks that DH is looking down on us today, if not everyday. Such a shame he's not here to share DD with me, she's so beautiful, just like he was

Toothache Fri 03-Jun-05 10:54:41

Aw Delgirl -

Sorry I don't know the details.... but I'm confused.... how can your dd only be 7wks old if your DH died 3 years ago?

...sorry if a bit dim, I just don't understand.

darlingbud Fri 03-Jun-05 10:54:44

How lovely to have someone so beautiful given to you by someone you have lost. I am sorry or your loss but so happy that you have his beautiful daughter.
He will be looking down on you every day and his heart will be filled with love and pride for both of you.
Enjoy every minute of your life with your daughter and live it to the full.

darlingbud Fri 03-Jun-05 10:55:14

I presumed his sperm was frozen for you to use?

dinosaur Fri 03-Jun-05 10:56:01

Hear hear, darlingbud. Very good post. Can't add to it at all. Enjoy your beautiful dd, DelGirl.

Toothache Fri 03-Jun-05 10:56:49

[dim emoticon}


Delgirl what a wonderful gift from you DH to you.

DelGirl Fri 03-Jun-05 10:56:55

Yes, it was frozen before he had chemo.

GRMUM Fri 03-Jun-05 11:09:25

I'm so sorry that he can't share this joy with you in person. So glad though that his beauty is already shining through in dd.xx

wendy11 Fri 03-Jun-05 14:25:22

Delgirl - my heart goes out to you today. You must be going through every emotion imaginable. I truly believe that our loved ones are always with us and I am sure that your DH would have been so proud of his family today. What a wonderful gift he has given you - his love for you will go on in his daughter.

Marina Fri 03-Jun-05 15:01:05

I'm so glad you have her at last Delgirl and so very sorry he is not with you on earth to share your joy.
Thinking of you today and very often XXX

Kittypickle Fri 03-Jun-05 15:02:13

Delgirl, I'm thinking of you today. I'm totally convinced that your DH is very proud of both you and your completely gorgeous DD. Take very good care of yourself xxxx

MRSflamesparrow Fri 03-Jun-05 15:04:02

I'm sat here sobbing for you!!

That is an amazing thing to have (your DD) - your DH is with both of you every day. He will be with you when you need strength, and for all those moments when your heart is breaking because you feel he should be there to be experiencing it all with you.

HUge hugs for you both


Titania Fri 03-Jun-05 15:06:05

oh delgirl sweetie.... i cannot even beging to imagine what you are going through right now. it must be a mixture of emotions for you. your dd is the most precious thing in the world, and thankfully part of your darling DH. I am sure your DH is looking down on you every day and is immensley proud...of the courage you have shown, and his gorgeous daughter that you have brought into this world....

I am so sorry for you. Thinking of you and your darling dd on this difficult day. x x x

Janh Fri 03-Jun-05 15:07:52

Oh, DG, you make my heart feel like bursting too. I am so very glad that you finally got DD. He is there in her, with you, every second of the day. Bittersweet is the only word. XXX

Titania Fri 03-Jun-05 15:08:34

i am sat here sobbing too now....its is so unfair this has happened to you.

your DH lives within your precious daughter x x x

LGJ Fri 03-Jun-05 15:11:45


Another one sat here sobbing.

motherpeculiar Fri 03-Jun-05 15:13:32

thinking of you delgirl

continue to enjoy your DD. If she is anything like you sound from your posts you'll be enjoying her for a long long time.


hunkermunker Fri 03-Jun-05 19:16:02

Sobbing here too - DG, I had no idea of your history

DH is with you still, and as your beautiful DD grows, you will see him in her in such incredible ways and you'll feel happy and sad all at once.

Many hugs to you, HM xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Yorkiegirl Fri 03-Jun-05 19:17:51

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dejags Fri 03-Jun-05 19:20:25


I am sorry things are so hard for you today.

Your little girl is a gift to you from your DH. I really believe he is with you and always will be through your little one.

You are in my thoughts

ebbie22 Fri 03-Jun-05 19:26:06

Surley its not just your DD that is beautful?
You too must be so beautful,both you and your dear husband,to of made someone so previous and for you to carry them into this world,when you never really know what the next day may bring.....
To of had and still have the hope and determination to carry on each day as if it was the best day in the world,despite how you may really feel inside and I guess despite everything that has happen[I too dont know or wish to pri?sp}today is one of the best days in the world....

Thoughts are with you xxxeb

Mirage Fri 03-Jun-05 19:26:08

Thinking of you & your beautiful daughter today.

anorak Fri 03-Jun-05 19:37:27

Ah Delgirl. No little girl could ever be loved or wanted more. When she grows up and you tell her what happened she will be so sure of your love.

Delgirl showed me a pic of her dh and I thought he had the most fantastic, smiling face. You could see he was someone really special.

Lots of love Delgirl xxx

sunchowder Fri 03-Jun-05 19:38:52

Delgirl, I didn't know all of this, I think your daughter is absolutely beautiful and I can't echo more the thoughts and wishes of all the other Mums here.

starry Fri 03-Jun-05 19:52:34

My thoughts are with you DelGirl. Your DH must feel so proud of you and DD as he watches over you both. You are a remarkable woman, and in future years as your DD grows up you will be able to share this bittersweet anniversary with her, which I hope, will in some ways ease the pain

Kittypickle has told me how gorgeous she is and I look forward to seeing you again and meeting her soon

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