I don't know what to write on wreath message

[genieg]

I am responsible for sending flowers from my side of the family to my great aunt's funeral. She was much loved but rarely seen and very private. This part of the family has an extremely strong stiff upper lip and the message should be on the formal side. My mother has criticised me for being too emotional at funerals (she thinks its disrespectful...................)

I tend towards the sappily over-emotional. Could anyone help me with dignified, formal wording for someone in their 80's.

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

The most formal things I can think of are

"In loving memory"
"Rest in Peace"

[CybilLiberty]

''In Loving Memory of Great Aunt XXX from ...' ??

[troutpout]

Ask you mother what she wants on the card?

Or

"In memory of a much loved Aunt"

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

actually, when my grandma died, I asked for this piece by Tagore to read at the funeral.

I wonder if it's short enough?

"Say not in grief that she is no more but say in thankfulness that she was. A death is not the extinguishing of a light, but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come."

[genieg]

I think I'll just go with in loving memory. Feels odd as I felt very close to this aunt and would love put more.

WOuld also love to ask my mother but she is very ill herself at the moment. Just didn't want to get it wrong on her behalf as she takes these things very seriously.

[genieg]

Thank you for replying - sorry I forgot my manners as having my chin chewed off by 6 month old.

Hecates - that's beautiful. Much more the kind of thing I would write if just from me as I couldn't give two hoots what the rest of the family think of me!

[anonandlikeit]

Always remembered, with love & fondness.