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Can't be real, his phones still ringing

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 18:32

Police have just been to tell me my brothers body has been found

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LIZS · 17/08/2009 18:33

I'm so sorry

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TheProfiteroleThief · 17/08/2009 18:33

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Chunkamatic · 17/08/2009 18:34

I'm so sorry for you and for your family.

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StinkyFart · 17/08/2009 18:35

Oh I am so so sorry

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 17/08/2009 18:36

Oh love

What do you need?

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SammyK · 17/08/2009 18:37

So sorry

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 18:43

DH is here with me at the minute.

He wasn't missing, we hadn't spoken in over a week, which is normal for us.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 18:44

It's ok TPT. He's with mum and dad now, don't know where my other silings are.

2 x friends are being amazing and so is DH, he's just got me some wine.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 18:51

He is estranged from his ex and children, I have told his ex though, she didn't seem bothered and has said she doesn't know if his children will go to the funeral.

I am the next of kin, i've asked the police to make sure no-one goes near him now, he looked after me when mam died,it's my turn now.

I'm just petrified as dh and I don't have money to pay for a funeral.

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Comewhinewithme · 17/08/2009 18:59

I'm so sorry .

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 19:01

No crime involved.

I have insisted that no-one else must identify him, it has got to be me, dh is going with me and he and my best friend are going in with me.

He won't have made a will, he did not have any insurance, he was on jobseekers allowance. It's up to me to deal with his belongings etc.

You are not being brutal, unfortunately I am a forward thinker and worry about things that happen in the future rather than how I am feeling at the minute.

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SmallScrewCap · 17/08/2009 19:01

How frightening and confusing for you, I am so sorry.

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cathcat · 17/08/2009 19:03

I'm so sorry. What a shock for you.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 19:09

Not being horrible, but wish DH could kiss and cuddle me more, when his DM died he didn't want it and he seems to be annoyed that I do.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 17/08/2009 19:12

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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SammyK · 17/08/2009 19:17

{{HUGS}} from me too, is your best friend on hand too? Is your DH usually tactile? May just be that you grieve differently and he doesn't realise how much you need that physical comfort from him.

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NotEvenTheTrees · 17/08/2009 19:24

I am sorry.

I know you have wine which is a major food group of course but please make sure you eat. Even just a little bit. And drink little and often.

You will end up emotionally exhausted, physical exhaustion could come very easily. Make sure you ask your friends/dh for what you need in specific terms.

Again, I'm sorry.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 19:28

My best friend is the only one that knows the true me and she is there 24/7, if i wanted her she would be here.

I feel sick, I've just managed to get in touch with my sis through facebook, I had to break dads death to her and now my brothers.

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Lovemyshoes · 17/08/2009 19:34

All I want is my arsehole of a brother back, who was a danger to women, but loved me uncontrollably, I was the only one able to tame/calm him down and stand in front of him and face him when his temper went (in between him and his wife)

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