Wanting to help my friend who has just been told that her son is terminally ill

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lsa2 Fri 09-Jan-09 19:55:09

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everlong Fri 09-Jan-09 21:22:59

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FattipuffsandThinnifers Fri 09-Jan-09 21:27:32

I am so, so sorry. I don't have a huge amount to offer I'm afraid, except to ditto what everlong said, and especially (in the longer term) for your friend to know that her son has not been forgotten. Life will move on for everyone except her and the family, and it will be so important to her that other people do not forget her son over the years. So sorry xx

lsa2 Fri 09-Jan-09 21:45:53

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lsa2 Sat 10-Jan-09 14:06:58

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everlong Sun 11-Jan-09 14:37:03

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madwomanintheattic Sun 11-Jan-09 14:45:50

lsa - your friend might find it helpful to read the 'bereavements' section of the 'special kids in the uk' forum.
i'm assuming they already have access to a hospice, and most hospices will provide a warm welcome and any counselling and advice to parents both before and after their loss.

so sorry to hear about your experience, everlong. wishing you strength x

lsa2 Sun 11-Jan-09 21:00:51

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everlong Sun 11-Jan-09 21:43:03

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lsa2 Sun 11-Jan-09 21:51:51

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MissM Mon 12-Jan-09 13:42:58

Can I add to Everlong's brilliant advice? I have recently lost my brother, and am watching how my mum is coping, and what helps her. From this point of view I would say, do as EL suggests in her last sentence but rather than just telling her that you will be there, actually DO be there. Sometimes it is very very hard to pick up the phone even when you want to, and you want people to not assume that because you're not it means you're ok. Text her, ring her, call on her. Don't wait for her to come to you.

It is agony.

lsa2 Mon 12-Jan-09 17:34:23

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