I lost my father when I was pregnant with my 1st child dd. and so when she was born i was still greiving for my father who i was very close too.. i made weekly trips to the cemetary to sit and i dont know try to find peace...this was with my dd in tow... so both my dc are aware that i visit my dads grave...and when they would ask why we are there as they grew older.. i told them... dd knows that is where my dad is buried and his soul is in heaven with the angels... the thing is that she sometime scares me in her way of thinking and i think i am to blame...she knew at the age of 4 that the dead do not return as she would ask me why my dad never visited i told her that we will meet him in heaven...because of this it was hard for me to see her when we lost our pet lovebirds... it was not an option to replace them as my friends did with her childrens goldfishes... i would have loved to have a pet in the family but the idea of them dying is scaring me as my daughter was very upset when the pair dead.
what could i say now or is the damage done>>im not one to hide the truth to my dc when they ask and im not usually good at explainig it to a child... like when there was a story on the news about firefighters dying in a blaze and i tried to explain that these men had chose this dangeroous job to save others and bless her heart every time she sees the firefighters(live near a station) she is like thank you for savig us...
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leenasmom · 17/12/2008 15:00
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