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Today is DH's birthday so on his grave I have planted...

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Yorkiegirl · 18/10/2008 18:18

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FAQ · 18/10/2008 18:19

A Yorkie bar??

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needmorecoffee · 18/10/2008 18:21

one of those flowers that smells like a sewer?

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BBBee · 18/10/2008 18:21

a marmite sandwich?

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FAQ · 18/10/2008 18:21
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ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween · 18/10/2008 18:22

One of those lilies that smell really bad?
A Christmas tree?

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cheekysealion · 18/10/2008 18:22

roses with fake droplets of water on

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cikecaka · 18/10/2008 18:23

Cant guess but cant wait to find out

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LilRedWG · 18/10/2008 18:23

A nice Lancaster red rose?

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Bleedodgy · 18/10/2008 18:24

Rhubarb? hope you're ok. x

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Yorkiegirl · 18/10/2008 18:47

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MingMingtheWonderPet · 18/10/2008 18:58

that's lovely, and will certainly m,ake other people wonder as they visit their loved ones too.
Sure it must be a tough day, best wishes to you.

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Blandmum · 18/10/2008 19:08

and mega hugs to you!

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Yorkiegirl · 18/10/2008 19:12

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yousaidit · 18/10/2008 19:23

Hi yorkiegirl, i've just read your thread, sorry for the horrible day you must hacve had regarding having to visit your dh's grave

I do think an ornamental cabbage sounds fantastic, though! Will your dh be appraciating all the shocked looks and the talking point he'll become? His resting place will probably be geting lots of admiring or puzzled glances!!

Don't florists sell thse funky looking not flowery things that look like veg (i don't know what they are or if they even are veg?) which you could take as a bouquet with you?

Your dh is probably very proud that you've done this for him xxx

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snooks · 18/10/2008 19:29

yorkiegirl - am sending my condolences on what must be a tough day for you...

I'm not being flippant, please believe me, but what about some alliums (bulbs) that will come up in the spring? i believe they belong to the onion family so your dh is bound to like those!

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LilRedWG · 18/10/2008 19:31

That's lovely YorkieGirl. Well done on making your MIL laugh today.

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Yorkiegirl · 18/10/2008 19:33

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snooks · 18/10/2008 19:35

don't geddit. what could be wrong with bulbs on a grave? [sorry, am asking]

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lauraloola · 18/10/2008 19:54

Hi Yorkiegirl - Im sure your husband was chuckling while watching you plant the cabbage I think its lovely that you plant things there x

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Yorkiegirl · 18/10/2008 20:30

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lauraloola · 18/10/2008 20:44

Its really nice that your lo's have an involvement and that they spend time at your dh's grave x

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snooks · 18/10/2008 21:00

Oh blimey Yorkiegirl, I feel on your behalf. As if you and your dds weren't going through enough at the time, I mean, who did your BIL think had planted the heathers in the first place?? I am sorry, I don't want to rake over the past, forgive me for bringing it up again. Families eh? You can always rely on them to bring you down sometimes. Glad you got it sorted though in the end.

Hope you are doing ok tonight x

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Evenstar · 18/10/2008 23:25

Thinking of you and the DD's Yorkiegirl, these special days are so hard aren't they with all the memories of other years. I have been up to the church this afternoon too with fresh flowers, no special occasion I usually go once a week. Sometimes it is comforting other times the reverse, but I feel closer to DH there. Hope that today gave you a little comfort as well as pain, what a wonderful idea to put him a cabbage, it is so personal to him.

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ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween · 19/10/2008 11:28

Cabbage is fabulous

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Yorkiegirl · 19/10/2008 16:34

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