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justaspoonfulofsugar · 15/10/2008 15:41

My dad died two months ago and I have very mixed feelings. I didn't get on with him very well in the last few years of his life - he was very hard work, and incredibly selfish towards my mother. I feel like some days I am on a rollercoast of emotions and more recently feel over sensitive to things people say - almost like I want to shy away from people. I am normally quite a sociable person and enjoy meeting new people - anyone else experienced this?

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onlyjoking9329 · 15/10/2008 20:24

sorry to hear that your Dad has died.
i think you do become more sensitive to the things people say and even the words in songs that you may never have noticed before, everything seems linked to death and loss. it is a rollercoaster ride and often we are poorly prepared for the next downhill stretch. are you able to talk to anyone properly about how you feel?
my DH died 4 months ago and i feel pretty much as you describe.

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shewhoneverdusts · 15/10/2008 20:31

So sorry to hear of your loss.
I completely agrww with OJ on this. My mum dies 20 years ago, but my sister died on 2nd September this year and I have completely withdrawn from socialising with people. I worry that I will become upset and cry in front of them which I know is soo stupid. I did manage to go out with a lovely group of ladies from the hospital I used to work in and they were great but silly things like "oh I could have died" or comments along those lines, I was very aware of. Also song lyrics get me every time, even songs that are nothing to do with death, James Blunt's latest offering has me dissolved, and Athlete's Wires used to remind me of my girls being early, now it's the time in ITU.

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shewhoneverdusts · 15/10/2008 20:31

just seen how bad my typing and spelling is - sorry.

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justaspoonfulofsugar · 15/10/2008 21:38

Thanks for your kind words - sorry to hear about your dh - you must be a very strong lady.
shewhoneverdusts - loosing your sister so recently must feel really raw. I think what I find hard is that I did not really get on with him - so it feels more complicated in a way to me. i feel guilty because a lot of the time I had a negative relationship with hime. I do feel v vunerable and lots of things are going on -including going back to my job in early december after a years maternity leave. I don't really want to go back and feel upset about leaving my ds. I have been seeing a counsellor, but to be honest I don't feel it is doing much good. I don't feel depressed - just not really like myself. My sister is surprised that I am even doing as much socializing as I am - during the day I should say - I have not really been out in the evening.