DH is flying out to be with dying MIL on Monday...I'm in bits at the whole situation and stressing the plane will crash and DS will be left without a Daddy..

[PussinJimmyChoos]

How the hell do I get a grip on myself?

I've only just finished taking my ADs for PND and so I'm not 100% strong and have decided the best way to deal with it for now is to stay with my mum for a few weeks. I'll have the help I need with DS and will also be on standby to fly out if I'm needed

I'm not coping though So far the stay is booked for three weeks. I know DH has to go and I've done nothing but be supportive for him because this is awful for him, but three weeks feels an AWFUL long time and I'm going to miss him so much

[WhereTheWildThingsWere]

Hello PiJC, didn't want your thread to go unanswered.

Sorry to hear that you are having a tough time, I've been suffering from pnd too, it can really affect your judgement imo.

Staying with your mum sounds like a good plan, you'll have support, and it's much easier to cope when you have some company.

It will be hard without your dh and you will really miss him, but the time will probably go much quicker than you think.

Try and plan things that you can do with ds and your mum to take your mind off things and make you feel more in control.

Fwiw I an terrified everytime dp has to fly, even though I know he is in far greater danger in his car (esp. the way he drives )

Try and concentrate on how good it will feel and it will all be over before you know it.

Good luck!

[PussinJimmyChoos]

Hello Wildthings (thank you for answering...)

I seem to have posted this thread twice by accident! Duh!

Very encouraging words...I sort of feel I need validation for going to my mums iyswim? I'm feeling like fgs..I'm a mother now, I should be able to cope on my own! But, although I go to groups etc, I don't actually have any family here and my best mate is where my family is so...

[lulumama]

take the ADs again!

of course you are stressing, it is normal, and your anxiety levels will be heightened under the circumstances.

i am sorry to hear this and i am sure your mum will look after you