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So today i met a mum in clinic....

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iMum Tue 23-Sep-08 16:52:47

Who had lost a baby last year to Still Birth. We got to chatting about when our babies are due and so on and she told me things, I, having been through Still birth myself opened up and chatted to her about it all. She is still so raw from it all and this being her first pregnancy since her loss she is really tearing her hair out.
I saw myself in her circa 2001, which is when I lost my dd. I hope I helped her-I was, for I think, the first time able to talk openly about it all without the need to "me too" at every turn, like I could just chat about her pain and draw from my exp but not draw attention to it iyswim.
I hope I helped, I gave her my email should she need to chat further and she seemed genuinely comforted by knowing that someone else had been there done it and gone on to have more babies. Whats more our babies will be born only 3 weeks apart! I really hope she is ok.

Makes me think about going into bereavement counseling.

cathcat Tue 23-Sep-08 22:54:36

Sounds like she was glad and lucky to meet you today. I think it was very kind of you to reach out to her, I'm sure it helped her and comforted her.
I think bereavement counselling would be great for you if you would find it helpful to talk about everything that happened to you. Wishing you lots of luck and peace.

feedmenow Fri 26-Sep-08 18:24:55

imum, that is a really generous idea you've got there. Surely bereaved mums and dads are the best ones to help and understand the newly bereaved. Look into the conselling thing - you may have found a new vocation in life!

P.S. While we're here maybe you can help me too. I'm on my first pg since my dd2 was stillborn. Words of wisdom very much appreciated.....

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