I don't need messages of condolence or sympathy - it's hard to explain, but I don't see very much at all of my brother and his family (my brother is 14 years older and left home when I was 4 to go to Uni and never returned, so we are not close). I've been a crap aunt (became an aunt when I was 12 and wasn't interested at that point...and by the time I might have been interested I felt too much time had passed for me to arrive on the scene and call myself 'auntie') and not much of a sister either....
How can I support my brother and his family who lives 200 miles away? Is there anything practical and useful I can do?
I have 2 surviving neices and 1 nephew. They are all destroyed by this. The 'kids' (they are all young adults now) are very close to each other and their parents. I am practically a stranger to them (did see them recently at a family gathering, having not seen them for a few years, and was struck by how lovely they all are...and resolved to be better at keeping in touch)
Have rung my brother - it was heart wrenching listening to him trying to keep it together and failing. I probably said all the wrong crappy things on the phone...I don't think I can be much emotional support because I simply haven't been there as an aunt or a sister, but is there anything else I can do?
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My nephew (late twenties) died suddenly and unexpectedly on Friday night. Not a heavy thread - just asking for advice
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handlemecarefully · 21/09/2008 21:02
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