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CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 00:55:32


Califrau Fri 12-Sep-08 00:56:58

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S1ur Fri 12-Sep-08 00:58:20

oh sorry CVQ. That's rough. Had you had much contact with her?

It is a hard thing to take in.

Saturn74 Fri 12-Sep-08 01:07:55

Sorry for your loss, CVQ.
Had your Nan been poorly?

CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 01:08:37

not seen her in a long time.what a wastesad
iv never had anyone diesad
its dads mum

differentID Fri 12-Sep-08 01:08:37

oh no. when did you get the call?

differentID Fri 12-Sep-08 01:09:56

Will your mum be headng back sooner than you both thought?

Mhamai Fri 12-Sep-08 01:16:42

So sorry for yor loss CvQ.

differentID Fri 12-Sep-08 01:17:58

I'm so sorry to hear that cvq. I hope you manage some rest tonight and can face it better in the morning.

CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 01:19:39

mum had a call not long ago.mums sketchy about details but it sounds like her asthma made her heart give out.she was 87sad

SuperBunny Fri 12-Sep-08 01:23:48


CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 01:38:53

i dont knw how im supposed to feel.i should be crying shouldnt i.but im just not knowing how i should feelsad

S1ur Fri 12-Sep-08 01:43:09

Of course cvq. You can't cry on cue!

You might feel a bit numb, and a bit unsure.

Hard and sad news takes a while to sink in.

That is ok.

If it makes you feel more connected why don't you write about your nan?

There are all sorts of people here who would like to know about what kind of person she was. What did she look like? What did she like to do? What do you remember about her?

Thinking about her, might bring some of your feelings out, but that's okay too.

S1ur Fri 12-Sep-08 01:45:20

you know 'not feeling' is okay as well.


You may not have been that close in which case then being generally sad but not devestated is understandable.

I'm just saying don't judge yourself for your feelings at this point [smle]

CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 01:59:28

slur i dont know anyone thas died before.this is weird.ive typed and retyped but its all a 'was' and i cant type itsad

S1ur Fri 12-Sep-08 02:08:54

so don't. just yet.

It takes time.

talk about her if you wnat in any presence, past or present. smile

Or not, just sleep and see how it is in te morning.

CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 02:11:22

yeah.ill try and sleep.this is just too weird

S1ur Fri 12-Sep-08 02:15:36

sorry for being weird. Yes sleep. It is a strange happening.

It wil be differnt (a bit) in the morning.

Good night. smile

differentID Fri 12-Sep-08 08:09:26

hello cvq. I hope you managed som rest last night- again, you and your family are in our thoughts today. The first couple of days are often confusing.

LoveMyGirls Fri 12-Sep-08 08:24:07


CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 09:22:58

i still cant cry.maybe im just heartless.
mums going back later today and im more upset abou thatsad

nailpolish Fri 12-Sep-08 09:26:34

i remember when my gran died
i was 19 and very close to her
saw her every day
i didnt cry when she died
even though up til her last few minutes she was asking where i was (stuck in traffic, im so sorry gran)
i still didnt cry
until the funeral when it hit me

you have my sympathies, will be thinking of you today, dont analyse your feelings or actions, cry if you want to but if you dont thats still 'normal'
i still miss my gran very much
best wishes x

CvQ Fri 12-Sep-08 09:41:17

thanks nailpolish.its just weird.surely i should be upset but theres just nothing.even seeing mum upset hasnt made me cry.

Buda Fri 12-Sep-08 09:44:18

Oh CvQ - I am sorry. Not crying doesn't mean you are not feeling. And you have been through so much maybe your sub-concious is not letting this through just yet.

nailpolish Fri 12-Sep-08 09:52:09

i remember that numb feeling
its perfectly normal
please dont worry

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