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such sad news at toddler group ths morning

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Tommy Tue 09-Sep-08 13:06:47

went back to toddler group today and found out that a baby died over the summer holidays. It was a cot death - He was 8 weeks old sad

I don't know the mum that much at all, I did try rather clumsily to tell her how sorry I was and we had a short chat about it but I feel so helpless - I want to do something "to help" but I know there's nothing I can do. It's so sad - I was crying all the way home - I just can't imagine how she feels or is going to manage it


lulumama Tue 09-Sep-08 13:08:10

make a donation to SIDS foundation or similar? it is shocking and incomprehensible when a baby dies, it is so against the natural order of things. well done for saying something to the mother, must have been nerve wracking

Tommy Tue 09-Sep-08 13:13:59

thanks lulumama - wasn't really nervewracking as I am used to dealing with bereaved people but just so sad. I just kept thinking what I would do/feel if I went into my DS in the morning and he wasn't breathing sad

The people that run the toddler group were talking about having a fundraising evening for the SIDS charity - which would be something we could all do I suppose to show here that we are supporting her.

It's just crap though sad

lulumama Tue 09-Sep-08 13:43:42

i see. it is just desperately sad though. great you are all going to do something though. i am sure it will be much appreciated

differentID Tue 09-Sep-08 13:49:23

I think the fact that you acknowledged her grief and spoke to her has gone a long way towards helping. The fund raising idea is lovely.

Miaou Tue 09-Sep-08 13:50:55

I think that's all you can do given the circumstances - just the fact that you acknowledge and talk about it will (I guess) be helpful. And organising fundraising events again shows how you feel about it.

So sad though sad, I agree

Ceolas Tue 09-Sep-08 13:51:31

I think the best thing you can do is to have a few more short chats to her over the next few months if you can manage to.

My sister had a stillbirth in April and I think she appreciates people not forgetting about it and pretending life goes on regardless iyswim.

It's so

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