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my poor daddy I feel so sad

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2shoes Mon 08-Sep-08 18:06:00

my dad rang me to day to tell me my sm died this morning.
she had been ill for years, but it was still a shocksad
I feel so sad and it feels weird.
sm and I didn't have a mum/daughter relationship. my mum died when I was 18 and my dad married her a couple of years later. so I was too grown up to build a dd relationship.
but she had been part of my life for so long. I feel really upset. but suprised at how sad and upset I feel.
and oh my poor old dad. he will be feeling so sad. luckily sm oldest freind was staying with him(so they can greive together) and he has loads of good freinds who will be able to support him.
I wish I knew how I was supposed to ffel and act.
I had to tell ds that his nan had diedsad
he might be 16 but he was upset.
dd was brill. she has cp and so I started to tell her how ill nan had been and she just looked at the ceiling(heaven).
sorry to go on. but bit mixed up.

Jacaranda Mon 08-Sep-08 18:07:57

so sorry how sad for you all sad

herbietea Mon 08-Sep-08 18:10:14

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BoysAreLikeDogs Mon 08-Sep-08 18:11:00

sad

I am so sorry for your loss 2shoes.

And sad for your poor daddy too. To have lost two wives must feel very cruel to him.

sad

lulumama Mon 08-Sep-08 18:12:07

of course you are feeling sad and mixed up. it is a difficult time. but bereavement is never easy or straighforward. do what you feel is right for you, there is no right or wrong in grief.

noddyholder Mon 08-Sep-08 18:14:17

So sorry 2shoes Hope your dad is ok xx

ilookbetterwithdrink Mon 08-Sep-08 18:20:01

Thats so sad. Im sorry for your loss. x

needsupport Mon 08-Sep-08 18:20:49

im very sorry x

mehgalegs Mon 08-Sep-08 18:22:23

Love to you and your family 2shoes. Sorry to hear your sad news. x

mashedbanana Mon 08-Sep-08 19:38:14

sorry to hear of your loss xx

Mamazon Mon 08-Sep-08 19:41:58

oh 2shoes im so sorry.

I think what your feeling is shock. once this imitial numb feeling subsides you will get the emotional respionse you think you should get.

You may not have had a mother daughter bond but i am sure you had a bond of some strength.

i know these are a big faux pas on here but i just don't care (((hugs)))

Onlyjoking Mon 08-Sep-08 21:24:08

sorry to see your news 2shoes, you are bound to feel mixed up it is a shock and you will be numb for a while. take care of yourself and your Dad

Wezzle Mon 08-Sep-08 21:34:02

So sorry 2shoes

Hoping your Dad is ok

Much love to you all x

2shoes Mon 08-Sep-08 21:46:04

thanks everyone(and thanks for the hug mamazon)
my bruv is goint to see him tommorow and will stay the night. I am going at the weekend. just not sure if we are all going or just me and ds. will see how my dad feels.
poor man he has had a rough deal. my mum had cancer for 18 years. so lots of caring for him. and sm was ill for yonks.

BigGitDad Mon 08-Sep-08 21:50:05

So sorry to hear 2shoes, my thoughts are with you and your family.

JRocks Mon 08-Sep-08 21:51:56

Sorry for your loss sad

2shoes Wed 10-Sep-08 17:25:24

thank you for your kind posts.
my dad seems to be ok. big bruv has been with him the last couple of days. and I will be going on saturday. can't wait to give him a big hug.

Onlyjoking Thu 11-Sep-08 23:52:29

Glad he has someone with him 2shoes, thinking of you all.

mrswotzisnotin Thu 11-Sep-08 23:54:37

2shoes I am so sorry to hear this {{{{{{{hugs and thoughts are with you and your family}}}}}}}

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