Lost my dad 3 years ago today

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Still miss him terribly, he was fab

[onlyjoking9329]

sorry to hear that Boysarelikedogs.
tell us about your Dad

[Unfitmother]

Sorry to hear that, it's 5 years since I lost mine, he was buried on this date.
It's a big hole isn't it?

[GrinningSoul]

It's my mum's birthday today. she died 3 years ago too. I've been feeling uncharacteristically (thanks to the prozac) down today and maybe you've helped me realise why. i could just cry and cry.

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

I hope you have lots of support today

it coming up to the 2yr anniversary of my dads death in May and i'm dreading it more this year than last

Maybe you could do something you know he enjoyed at the weekend - my dad loved going walking in the woods or on the beach so i'm going to do that on his anniversary this year to make it happier iykwim

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Having a little cry

He was only 65,a great big tall man, with a huge booming laugh, doting grandad, my Big Daddy, married to my Mum, childhood sweethearts for 44 years.

He died on my older sister's 40th birthday. My brother was only 25 , my other sister was 35.

He had Boerhaaven's syndrome, he had norovirus, and ruptured his oesophagus. MRSA got him 4 months after surgery, he never came home.

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

Its lovely that he got to meet his grandchildren though

Its hard when it happens on days like birthdays, anniversarys, near christmas as you never quite enjoy it the same aagin My dad died 9 days after DS3 was born so DS3's birthday is a mixture of emotions for me, but at least he got to meet him

tell us more about how lovely he was?

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

oops the 'grin' came out wrong, sorry

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Aw bless you all

Well

He was very silly, and kind and clever.

Great big hands, all rough from gardening and DIY. Famous locally for his electrician skills, he was very popular.

He was in the RAF, I was born in Singapore, he was away a lot when we were children.

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

He sounds lovely

My dad was in the RAF too(although i was born in Peterborough not quite as exciting as Singapore), he was a chef - what did your dad do?

Gardening is a lovely was to remember too as when i do it i rememeber what my dad taught me

what sort of music did he like?

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

They lived at Peterboro when newlywed

He was an electrician on Hercules, he loved those planes with a passion. We always went to Fairford for his birthday (July).

He loved the Brandenburg Concertos, and his favourite music ever was The Corsair by Berlioz. Performed by brass band not orchestra.

Aw

Thanks for listening, it's so nice to ramble.

We were together on the weekend, apart from my older sister, she still struggles with the fact that for her, it's never going to be a happy birthday.

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

Your sister will be ok i hope

ramble away

Its nice to talk about it myself too

My dad like classical music and i often listen to it when i miss him, so quite a lot really!!

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Sparkles, I'm off to college in a mo.

Be back much later, look forward to chatting with you again.

Thank you all

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

Hope you go ok at college

I'm off in a bit myself, we're moving in a couple of weeks and i need to do some packing as i've just sat on here all day

i'll be about tomorrow though x

[onlyjoking9329]

thanks for telling us about your Dad, i hope it helped for you to remember some of the good things about him on this sad day.
hugs for you.

[sparklesandnowinefor9months]

OJ you really are a wonderful, caring person you know x

[angiebaby78]

Its the three year anni of my dp tomorrow. its really nice to be able to talk about our dear departed. On mn its so anonymous that you can spill things out , i think i have stored up all the emotions, cant really cry in front of the kids, have to be strong. I hope all the people we are missing are having a party up there looking down on us and smiling at how far we have come in our lives since their departure. Keep smiling and remember all of the times. XXX

[windygalestoday]

my mum died 23 years ago and i miss her now as much as i ever did- dont think u ever get over it you just learn to live with it ....one day ....

[onlyjoking9329]

so many people dealing with loss, i wish you all peace. it is a difficult path that you are all walking

[windygalestoday]

only joking ive read some of your posts i dont know what to say ,all i know is my path has gotten a lot easier to walk and i feel deeply for you with your uphill journey xx you are very admirable xx

[Wordsmith]

I lost my best friend 3 yrs ago today and my dad exactly 6 months later. It's hard - don't be afraid to talk about it.

[onlyjoking9329]

talking is good i am sure lots of people want to shut you up because of how it makes them feel, take no notice of them.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

Oh bless you all for taking time tonight.

I feel relieved to have been able to remember him tonight.

It is a hard, and lonely road sometimes.

[onlyjoking9329]

i am glad that you were able to share those memories.
it must feel like a very lonley road for you, but know that you are not alone, you have been a huge support to me and i don't ever want you to think you are alone on that dark road.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

[onlyjoking9329]

if you must go to bed teary then i hope that some of the tears are happiness that you had your Dad in your life, thou i am sure that some of the tears will be the loss that you feel at not having him beside you now.