Hi - I am posting this hoping someone can give me some advice. I don't want to upset anyone so please forgive me if I do.
My nanny is pregnant with an unexpected but very much wanted second child. She found out this week that it has spina bifida. I have told her that I do not expect her in work next week - she has got to make some terrible decisions and needs space and time.
However, when should I expect her to return? I can't imagine this is something you get over quickly and would guess that in many ways it's life changing. I want to be as kind and helpful as I can be - she is a valued nanny - but at the same time I can't give her indefinate paid leave and will need to recruit a temporary replacement if she wants to take much time off.
I am hoping that you might be able to give me some ideas as to timings etc. I do not plan to even mention any of this before she has made her decision but I do need to sort out some sort of contingency plan as I do need to go to work myself. If she does have a termination how long do you think it takes before some sort of normality returns and she might want to come back to work?
Thank you all for your help and I'm very sorry if I'm asking personal questions or dragging up painful memories. I'm aware of how awful a time this is for my nanny and want to avoid making it any worse if I can possibly help it.
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MrsWobble · 07/03/2008 14:28
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